My 9th grade son is very intelligent and has been told by many people. However, I don't understand. He will not do his work. Then he tells me that he does not know how to do the work. This is the last 9 weeks, and he has already failed 2 classes from the first semester. We got report cards last week and he is failing 3 more classes this semester. I warned him about repeating the 9th grade, but it does not seem to phase him. He is talking to a counselor, and even the counselor is impressed with his level of intelligence. What am I missing? Then he calls my 3rd grader a nerd for indulging in knowledge. Is this a freshman thing or is there a possible deeper problem?
Any time a child has a change in behavior this should be a "red flag".
First, you may wish to check with experts who can help to determine physical and academic development. (Pediatrician, School Psychologist or School Counselor, etc.)
Then with much more information available, you can meet with the school counselor to explore the next course of action. does your son need to have more structure during his day? Mentoring or tutoring? Involvement with outside activities to balance the work load?