Dear frogdogdog,

I received a similar question on my website, Ask the Mediatrician (http://bit.ly/2n18m), and I thought this answer might help you.  

The most important developmental task children your daughter's age is not to learn fact (which is what computers teach) but to learn how to learn. Computers really only provide tasks with right and wrong answers and thus don't encourage the kind of problem solving and logical thinking necessary to build flexible learners. Instead, they teach kids to memorize and to be afraid of being wrong.  That fear is a problem because you want your daughter to take risks in learning. You want your daughter to try things out, say new words, and play with toys in new ways. She needs to build that creativity and love of learning far more than she needs to learn computer skills.

Some ideas for options that encourage your daughter to "learn how to learn" are open-ended, creative play options like modeling clay, markers, paper, books, musical instruments (like maracas or tambourines), a sandbox, or a building set that allows her to build free form things. From what we know about brain development at this age, these toys will help build stronger, more flexible brains than any electronic toy will.  Computers are wonderful teaching tools for kids 3 and older. You will want to introduce them to your daughter at the time when they will do the most good and not run the risk of her being bored and uninterested at 3 because she was frustrated at 1 or 2.

Enjoy your media and use them wisely,
Dr. Michael Rich, The Mediatrician®