First, I would suggest that you talk to your child's classroom teacher, to see if anything can be done to stop the bullying and also alert appropriate staff members at the school. However, if you feel that talking to the parents of the bullier first is the best way, then your approach will be the most important part. When parents are confronted with something negative about their children its common that they become instantly defensive. To avoid that response, ask the bulliers parents through email or phone if there is a time you could get together and talk for a few minutes face to face about some concerns with the way your children play together. Don't say "You kid is bullying mine, and I want to talk to you about it." Approach the topic with a kind and loving attitude.

When you do meet, speak with a non-accusatory and calm voice tone. They may not even know any of this is happening, so try to be understanding of their point of view. Start by pointing out a few of the positive things about their child. Then explain your concerns using "I" statements such as "I am concerned" or "I am worried because_______." Avoid saying "your kid" in sentences, but rather, explain how the the bullying occurs saying things such as: "my child feels hurt when ___ happens," or "when ___ happened it really made (child's name) sad.)

When you are done expressing your concerns, have a few ideas ready for how the situation might be remedied. Ask them if they are willing to work with you and your child to make things better between the kids. Of course, give them time to explain their side of things and offer any suggestions they may have to help the situation.  Good luck!

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