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I believe my 20 year old son has Asperger's. What do I do?

I want to describe my son, because I believe he might be an Asperger. I need some advise in what to do.

He is an intelligent 20 year old boy with full time job as an It-consultant. At home he always sits in his room with the computer. He meet the only friend he has once or twice a month. They play games on the computer.

He did well at school, and he never caused me or the teachers any problem. He is silent, and never talk unless he had to. He is never angry, but he is never very happy either. He speaks in one tone, and he never raises his voice. He  don't care about what other people think of him.  He do have social problems and he avoid people if he can. He says that he have problem with speech, and he can do something with his mouth sometimes when the word doesn't come out right. He can say things that doesn't fit in. He doesn't seem to care about other people at all. He doesn't spend money unless he had to, so his bank account is well filled up.
I think he has learned what to do in special situations. He can ask me how it was at work today an so on, but I think he really doesn't care. He is trying to fit in. He is an intelligent and well informed boy that knows a lot of things that other people never read or heard about. There are many things that makes him feel uncomfortable such as special noises, clothes with pictures and stripes, words that is spelled wrong.

My question is: Do I do anything about this?
In Topics: Autism & Aspergers Syndrome
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Apr 8, 2010
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What the Expert Says:

Hello and thank you for writing to JustAsk,

This is an excellent question.  While I do not know your family I hope that I can provide websites to help you explore your concerns with others in "similar shoes".  These websites have information and also Autism/Asperger Syndrome specific parent groups.  founded by parents and includes the perspective an older child, Kyle.  You can post question and comments on this website.  again founded by parents with expert advisors.  You can post questions and comments here, too.  An excellent resource to help spring board you to others who may be able to help you specifically.

Good luck.

Louise Masin Sattler, NCSP
Nationally Certified School Psychologist
Owner of Signing Families
Host of Learning and Laughter with Louise- HerInsight Media

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dgraab , Parent writes:
Hi, Have you talked with your son about exploring this possible diagnosis with a doctor? Only a doctor who examines your son in person can help determine the cause(s) and treat the discomfort your son is having with his speech and certain noises, clothes and words.

For more information and resources related to Asperger Syndrome (including first-person accounts and options/opportunities for young adults with the condition), here is a special edition on you might also review with your son:

Autism Society of America also offers information and resources on their website that you may find helpful in discussing this topic with your son:

All the best to you and your son as you explore these concerns further.
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