my significant other and i have children from different relationships.  We both love and care for our kids very much, my kids are in sports and i coach, i try very hard to allow my children to experience things, feelings about life on there own.   she has put her kids now in sports amongst other activities at school and it feels like she is constantly doing things for them.  it has affected our relationship to a point where i see her only maybe 2-3 times a month... if and when we spend time together, the phone is ringing,"when are you coming back"  "what time are you getting home".  she makes to many decisions for her kids, always tells her youngest that is 9 how much to eat and when to stop, say hello, say goodbye,  she complains about what the oldest wears to school but she is the one that buys her the clothes, i personally think that she is trying to make her children and herself fit into i do not know what.  She has her kids everyday and i split my time 50/50,  overall i am just trying to get an answer or help before i make the decision of moving on....i tell her it is going to affect her kids, and definitely us but still nothing. this has been going on for about 2 years and i have been very patient.  i have got to a point where i tell my assistant coaches to cover for me at practice to be together and she feels the need to be at the practice when she is not the coach...... VERY CONFUSED AND BECOMING INPATIENT