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Why don't my boys ever defend me to their verbally abusive father?
My boys are 9 and 11. My ex is verbally abusive to me and the boys. The boys always take their father's side and they never defend me. They live with me, and see their dad every weekend. They stick to their dad like glue, and they tell me they hate me, they don't like me or love me. I am crushed.
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Communicating with my child (The tough talks)
> 60 days ago
What the Expert Says:
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I'm sorry to hear that you are in this terrible situation, but please do not expect your 9 & 11 year old to defend you or take sides with anyone. At their age, they are probably confused and have feelings of anger that they take out on you at times. The wonderful thing is that the love between a mother and child is unconditional and you must show them your sincere love unconditionally at all times regardless of their actions or words. You may want to consider a family counselor to help you all to understand and get through this tough situation. Best Wishes!!
> 60 days ago
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