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i am being bullied and don't know what to do.

i am 13 yrs old and i am in 7th grade  my name is sandra these kids are bulllying me and i want to stand up to them but how do i do that. p.s they are really popular and have tons of friends.
In Topics: Bullying and teasing
> 60 days ago

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Jan 20, 2012
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What the Expert Says:

Hi, Sandra,

We're sorry to hear that you're being bullied.  Bullying is so hurtful, so we can only imagine how bad you're feeling.  Your idea to stand up to the bullies isn't necessarily a bad one, but you definitely want to make sure it's the best option and that you do it right.

First, ask yourself if you think approaching the bullies will make things worse.  A lot of times, it really doesn't feel like the bullying can get any worse.  If you feel like that's a risk you're willing to take, then approaching them is an option.  (With bullies, there's probably risks involved with every option you have!)

Second, try to approach the person who is really instigating the bullying.  A lot of times, bullies are followers, and there's a "main bully" that's really fueling the fire.  That's the person you want to talk to.

Third, try to approach them when they're on their own or not with many friends.  You don't want them to rally their bullies against you while you're trying to talk.

Fourth, "standing up" to a bully doesn't mean lowering yourself to their level.  What you basically want to communicate to them is that their behavior is hurtful and you want it to stop.  Don't be mean back to them.

Bullies are cowardly on the inside, so they pick victims whom they don't think will try to "fight back" or confront them.  By confronting them -- even maturely and non-aggressively -- you're showing strength that will make them uncomfortable.  That discomfort will either slow down the bullying or speed it up.

If you don't notice a change in the bullying (or it gets worse) after confronting them, definitely go to the school for help.

Good luck!

MKM, Counselor

Boys Town National Hotline
1-800-448-3000
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Trueadvice
Trueadvice writes:
Listen i would reccomend going to a guidance counsler at the school, no matter what the other kids say. Take from a sophmore in high school, it will help you alot
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gogirl1234
gogirl1234 writes:
don't be afraid to tell a teacher or somebody maybe they can help u
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andymartinezh
andymartinezh writes:
Do not stand up to them because they would only bully you more. Just walk away or pretend you do not listen them. If they want to hurt you talk with a teacher or your parents.P.S try to say one of their "friends" to help you stop him or she from bully you:
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DarkNinja1299
DarkNinja1299 , Student writes:
Dont be afraid to speak up. Tell the principal or ask if you can have a teacher watch so they can get caught. The counselor will also help. Take it from someone in middle school.
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