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Bullying lead to Assault - what can we do?
For 2 years my granddaugher age 12 has been bullied by a girl on her bus. All the incidents have been reported to the school, nothing of any consequences have been done about the situation. Yesterday my granddaughter was assaulted by this girl on the bus. She was beaten, scratched, hair pulled out and food smeared on her head while the other kids laughed and the bus driver did nothing. The police were called, but refered it back to the school. My granddaugher is an honor student, school ambassador and a very kind person. Now she is affraid to go back to school. The girls parents are as aggressive as she is and tried to attack my son when he accompanied the police to their house. Does my granddaughter have to be killed before the school doe anything. Her parents cannot afford an attorney, what can we do?
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Bullying and teasing
> 60 days ago
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Additional Answers (6)
I'm so sorry you and your family are going through such a terrible experience. I'd encourage you to read some of the articles in the Education.com special edition on bullying (link below) to help learn about why bullying happens and what you, your son, and your grand daughter can do to help stop it.
But I think the most important thing is that you not give up. Work with your family to carefully document everything that has happened between these two girls (including any areas in which your daughter may need to take responsibility). Take this information to the teacher. If she can't or won't do anything, go to the principal. If you're still not getting an appropriate response go to the district level (school board members). Your daughter deserves to feel safe and happy in school. If you've done absolutely everything you can to help her achieve this at her current school, you may have to think about giving her a fresh start at another school.
I wish you all the best.
Kat
But I think the most important thing is that you not give up. Work with your family to carefully document everything that has happened between these two girls (including any areas in which your daughter may need to take responsibility). Take this information to the teacher. If she can't or won't do anything, go to the principal. If you're still not getting an appropriate response go to the district level (school board members). Your daughter deserves to feel safe and happy in school. If you've done absolutely everything you can to help her achieve this at her current school, you may have to think about giving her a fresh start at another school.
I wish you all the best.
Kat
> 60 days ago
You are a good grandma. My son started being bullied recently and school was informed. I still have to see how they handled it. Like your granddaughter's bully, my son's also has a pair of aggressive parents, from what I heard from the people whom went to same elementray school 30 years ago, the father was a big bully himself. I don't know what the outcome of our case, but I would definately consider changing school if the problem is not resolved. Your granddaught is a kind person, she can make friends in a safe enviroment. No kids can learn when they are afraid.
Good luck.
Good luck.
> 60 days ago
What can you do? Withdraw her from that school immediately! NO child should treated this way. The education is simply not worth it. You can homeschool and give a much better curriculum than she is being provided with right now and being masked as "honor". I'm a former teacher now homeschooling mom. You would not believe what the schools consider "honors" and "advanced". A program called Abeka is an advanced curriculum. I would advise this program for the advanced student along with outside activites ;) Trust me, it is so crucial to decide now while this does not take a toll on her self-esteem. It may very well already have, but you can mend it through time. You will find that most kids in a homeschooling environment are outgoing and friendly (certainly not bullies) in a community. Good luck :)
> 60 days ago
Also, I would take this to the local newspaper. Freedom of speech is a great gift. Get on greatschool.net and report how this school handles problems.
> 60 days ago
First of all she needs to stop taking the bus. Here are some things that will help.
1. Buy her an electric scooter there is one at amazon.com it comes in purple, white,and blue. i have a scooter and its awesome i can ride it any where. Its only 200$ free shipping!!!
2. You can drive her school.
3. Buy her a bike.
But whatever you do keep her off the bus!!!!! dun dun dun .
1. Buy her an electric scooter there is one at amazon.com it comes in purple, white,and blue. i have a scooter and its awesome i can ride it any where. Its only 200$ free shipping!!!
2. You can drive her school.
3. Buy her a bike.
But whatever you do keep her off the bus!!!!! dun dun dun .
> 60 days ago
go up the chain of commands, and if no one is going to do anything, then press charges. Sue the family.
Thats the only thing I can think of.
Can she get a cell phone so she has some protection? she can call 911 and then you guys.
this girl sounds like she needs to be suspended, or expelled. we are also dealing with bullying too over here.
Thats the only thing I can think of.
Can she get a cell phone so she has some protection? she can call 911 and then you guys.
this girl sounds like she needs to be suspended, or expelled. we are also dealing with bullying too over here.
> 60 days ago
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