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How concerned should we be that our daughter does not seem interested in making friends and playing with other kids?
We have a daughter who will turn 9 this month. She is doing very well in school. She scored in the 85th percentile on her recent standardized test and got straight A's for the entire 3rd grade year. She is also generally very happy, she tends to be more of an extrovert, and she has a very good personality...definitely not shy. She will not hesitate to approach someone, start a conversation, and ask for something she needs or wants. Additionally, she is VERY creative. For example, she plays the piano and can do artwork, by herself, for hours at time.
What's bothering us, however, is that she does not seem interested in making friends and playing with other kids. It's not that she can't make friends, she just seems to have no interest in doing so. She'll play with other kids, as long as they're interested in doing artwork and some of the other things she enjoys. Even her 3rd grade teacher noticed it this year. During recess, when she asked her "why don't you want to play with the other kids", our daughter said "sometimes I prefer to have some time to myself to daydream." Don't get me wrong, our daughter does have a few friends and she genuinely seems very sociable but, I have to admit, sometimes she seems to be in her own world.
We would appreciate any advice from anyone out there. Should we be concerned? Is there something we should do? Is there something we should NOT do?
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Friendships and peer relationships
What's bothering us, however, is that she does not seem interested in making friends and playing with other kids. It's not that she can't make friends, she just seems to have no interest in doing so. She'll play with other kids, as long as they're interested in doing artwork and some of the other things she enjoys. Even her 3rd grade teacher noticed it this year. During recess, when she asked her "why don't you want to play with the other kids", our daughter said "sometimes I prefer to have some time to myself to daydream." Don't get me wrong, our daughter does have a few friends and she genuinely seems very sociable but, I have to admit, sometimes she seems to be in her own world.
We would appreciate any advice from anyone out there. Should we be concerned? Is there something we should do? Is there something we should NOT do?
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