It must be frustrating to know that your son's school is not listening to you or your wife's wishes.

Please know that the research surrounding grade retention is not positive. The National Association of School Psychologists (NASP) has published a position statement (which means that prominent members of the NASP got together, reviewed the evidence, and determined their official "position" on the issue) on grade retention. Overall, research studies indicate that students who are held back/retained have worse outcomes, academically and emotionally, than their peers who were also candidates for retention, but who were promoted. See links below. Thus, grade retention is generally not recommended.

Instead of grade retention, experts suggest that parents and teachers work together to develop an intervention plan that can support the student's unique strengths and areas of weakness. For instance, if your son has not been formally tested for special education, this might be a good next step.

However, if you and your wife are certain that grade retention is the best step for your son, you should talk with the folks in the district office about appealing the school's decision. They will have recommendations for how you can formally begin the appeal process.

Good luck!

Sincerely,

Laura Kauffman, Ph.D.
Licensed Child Psychologist
JustAsk Expert
www.drlaurakauffman.com