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My daughter is into her 2nd week of kindergarten and still crying and throwing a fit when my wife drops her off. What should we do?
She was fine for the first 3 days no crying, on the 4th day she started crying but not throwing a fit, that was the first week. At the start of the second week she started crying and throwing a fit. I think it's just seperation anxiety (she wants to be at home with mommy and her little brother) I just worry because she has diabetes and she has to go to the office to get checked at break time before she can go out and have a snack and play with the other kids and at lunch she has to get checked and get her insulin before she goes out to join her classmates. I just worry that maybe she is scared or feeling different than everyone in her class and is having trouble making friends.
In Topics:
Kindergarten readiness, Self esteem and identity, Friendships and peer relationships
> 60 days ago
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Additional Answers (3)
Hi emmasdaddy,
I'm so sorry to hear that this is going on! It's painful to see little ones cry, especially when it's prompted by saying goodbye to Mom or Dad. It sounds like there may be two issues going on here: 1) separation anxiety at drop-off and 2) possible trouble fitting in with the other kids at school.
To minimize tears during drop-off and push her to interact with her peers, try sticking around for a little bit after you drop her off, to smooth the transition. Help her get involved in an activity or playtime with the other students, hang around for a few minutes, and then say a quick goodbye. Avoid sneaking off while she's distracted - that has the potential to make her suspicious and clingy in the future. Resist the urge to go back, even if she's crying. This only serves to make the inevitable goodbye much tougher.
As for helping her make friends, I suggest you talk to her teacher. He or she probably knows best who your child interacts well with. Together, you can promote positive interactions with these peers. And it's always a good idea to alert your child's teacher to the situation and get her input - she's likely to have more insight into how your child is feeling and acting throughout the school day.
Hope this helps, and thanks for using JustAsk!
I'm so sorry to hear that this is going on! It's painful to see little ones cry, especially when it's prompted by saying goodbye to Mom or Dad. It sounds like there may be two issues going on here: 1) separation anxiety at drop-off and 2) possible trouble fitting in with the other kids at school.
To minimize tears during drop-off and push her to interact with her peers, try sticking around for a little bit after you drop her off, to smooth the transition. Help her get involved in an activity or playtime with the other students, hang around for a few minutes, and then say a quick goodbye. Avoid sneaking off while she's distracted - that has the potential to make her suspicious and clingy in the future. Resist the urge to go back, even if she's crying. This only serves to make the inevitable goodbye much tougher.
As for helping her make friends, I suggest you talk to her teacher. He or she probably knows best who your child interacts well with. Together, you can promote positive interactions with these peers. And it's always a good idea to alert your child's teacher to the situation and get her input - she's likely to have more insight into how your child is feeling and acting throughout the school day.
Hope this helps, and thanks for using JustAsk!
> 60 days ago
I think she should stay home with her mom. Period. Why would you throw her in a kindergarten and why would you throw her in kindergarten knowing that she suffers from diabetes?
Please tell your wife to keep her home. Please.
Please tell your wife to keep her home. Please.
> 60 days ago
yes sir, your problem may be serious in your thought. but as far as concern to your problem you should ask her about her problem in alone .
and try to find the fills that she feels when she goes in the school. she has diabetes problem also, so there may be some type of problem that she could not tell u. so plese try to find the diffrent activities that she does in her life.
and try to find the fills that she feels when she goes in the school. she has diabetes problem also, so there may be some type of problem that she could not tell u. so plese try to find the diffrent activities that she does in her life.
> 60 days ago
