my daughter is 8 and acting very bad what can i do to fix it?
she told a complete stranger that someone has touched her sexually, i took it the police immediately,they investigated and said it was not true. i talk to her and she denies it. so now she is doing horrible in school and acting very badly at home what can i do?
A sudden behavioral change in a child needs to be investigated further. Make an appointment with your daughter's health care provider (HCP) for an evaluation as soon as possible. What kind of behaviors does she exhibit at school? Is she disruptive, talkative, and impulsive? If so, your daughter's HCP may evaluate her for ADHD. Does she act out, destroy property, acts aggressively towards other children? If so, she might need to be evaluated by a mental health professional. Whatever the cause of your daughter's behaviors, your HCP is the best place to start to help your daughter. The earlier the better.
HI THERE WILL I ALSO HAVE A 10YR WITH ALMOST THE SAME THING SHE WAS SO BAD AT SCHOOL THAT THEY WERE CALLING ME AT WORK EVERY DAY SO I HAD HER EVEALUTED AND THEY SAID SHE HAS ADHD MY DIDNT BELIVE IT NOT MY BABY BUT THIS STARTED IN THE 1STGD AND NOW SHE IN 4THGD AND ITS STILL HARD U HAVE 2 TAKE IT 1 DAY AT A TIME THE LYING AND THE DENIES THINGS U GOING 2 HAVE THAT TALK 2 HER THATS HOW ARE DAYS GO AND GIVE HER LOTS OF TIME ANDLOTS OF LOVE
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Okay, I'm concerned as I know you are too. It's unusual for an 8 year old to say that she had been touched sexually - unless she had been - I don't think that it is common for an 8 year old to understand this or make it up without learning it from somewhere.
You say the police investigated and claim that this isn't true...doesn't mean anything.
You mention that you talked to her and "she denies it". What are you referring to? Does she deny that she was touched or deny that the the police said it wasn't true? Either way, I'm still concerned, it would not be unusual for a victim to changer their story, especially if they feel that they have reason to be ashamed or they will get into trouble.
Also, you mention that this is the time that her behavior and attitude changed, which also makes me concerned.
I feel as though you need to have a "heart to heart" talk with your daughter and in an age appropriate way explain to her what is okay and what is not okay and reassure her that you love her no matter what. Get her to open up to you and find out what is going on. I would let her know that recently her behavior has become unacceptable and you want to help her, that together you can work this out, regardless of reason.
If you are still concerned that she has been assaulted, find out by whom, and take her to the pediatrician for complete evaluation and the doctor will be able to recommend what you need to do.
I certainly hope that nothing has happened to your daughter and that this will be easily solved with a simple solution.
YOU JUST HAVE TO FIND WHAT MAKES HER HAPPY BECAUSE MY DAUGHTER USED TO DO THE SAME THING. I TOOK HER TO SOMEONE SHE WOULDN'T BE SCARED TO TALK TO AND SHE RELEASED ALL HER INNER FEELINGS. I'M SURE YOU WILL BE ALRIGHT. I'M NOT SAYING THAT YOU HAVE TO TAKE YOUR CHILD TO A SPECIALIST BUT HAVE SOMEONE SIT DOWN AND TALK TOHER ABOUT THE INNER FEELINGS SHE HAS.