dolphintn03
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My daughter had to change schools and is now getting Ds and Fs when she used to be a b student.
my 6th grader recently found out that she would be changing schools at the end of the school term. before the announcment she was a b student. now she is getting d's and f's.. it is not that she can not do the work. she just does not turn in her work. she said that she is changing schools in the summer and it does not matter, that she does not want to do the work. i have tried everything from grounding to taking things away to total removial of all her "stuff" (computer, phone, tv, radio). I have talked to her teachers, councler, and grand parents. nothing is working. I am worried.
does anyone have any ideas or insite that may help
dayle, tennessee
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Discipline and behavior challenges
does anyone have any ideas or insite that may help
dayle, tennessee
> 60 days ago
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Hi Dayle,
Can I ask why she's changing schools? That's always a bit stressful for kids but it can be especially emotional if the school change is paired with another big life change (parents divorcing or a move to a new city). I think kids that age tend to act like "they don't care" when they really care A LOT about something else happening in their lives. Even if there's nothing else going on in your family, the idea of moving to a new school can give her a lot to worry about (trying to make all new friends, finding all the classrooms, and getting involved in new activities). I know getting a girl this age to talk to you can be challenging but maybe if you can help her feel better about the other things she's thinking about she'll be in a better place to finish strong at her current school. Moving to a new school may already feel like a "punishment" to her so adding extra punishments (taking away her "stuff") may just push her further away from you.
This is a tough situation...please let us know how you're all doing!
Can I ask why she's changing schools? That's always a bit stressful for kids but it can be especially emotional if the school change is paired with another big life change (parents divorcing or a move to a new city). I think kids that age tend to act like "they don't care" when they really care A LOT about something else happening in their lives. Even if there's nothing else going on in your family, the idea of moving to a new school can give her a lot to worry about (trying to make all new friends, finding all the classrooms, and getting involved in new activities). I know getting a girl this age to talk to you can be challenging but maybe if you can help her feel better about the other things she's thinking about she'll be in a better place to finish strong at her current school. Moving to a new school may already feel like a "punishment" to her so adding extra punishments (taking away her "stuff") may just push her further away from you.
This is a tough situation...please let us know how you're all doing!
> 60 days ago
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