I'm so sorry that you are feeling this way. It is actually not at all unusual for moms to feel sad as their kids grow up and move on, especially when it feels like so many other things aren't quite where you would like them to be. But, you are doing the first, most important thing: you're talking about your feelings!

It's not always simple to shake sad, lonely or depressed feelings, but it's really important to start taking steps in the right direction. So here are a few steps that can help you, and I bet many other moms who feel exactly the same way as you!

1. Begin by recognizing that just because your boys are growing up and loving you in a different way, it doesn't mean they don't love or need you at all. Look carefully, beyond your sadness and you'll see that they do love you and probably need you, just in different ways.

2.Start to think about ways to fill your life beyond your sons. Even if you're not working, think about what you are interested in, how you might help others and what are your passions. Then join a group or begin volunteering. The more purpose you have in your day--especially through volunteering--the better you will feel. Search deeply for things you loved to do even before you were a mom. You will also start to make friends in this way.

3. Consider that perhaps your marriage needs a bit of help. Maybe you are feeling sad and lonely and your self esteem is poor at least in part because now that your boys aren't filling the void, you can see the flaws in your marriage. Do you and your husband need to talk? Do you need counseling?

4. If you aren't exercising, start to do so right away. Even if it is just a slow walk to begin. Exercise is an excellent way to alleviate depression and make you feel better! Perhaps you'll meet people in the neighborhood as you walk too!

Work on these four steps and you will start to feel better really soon!

Good Wishes and Great Parenting,
Dr Susan Bartell
JustAsk Expert
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