What is a district's goal when they receiving a harassment complaint?
I've filed 3 'official' bullying/harassment complaints with our district. Three have been researched and found to be 'non-founded' or 'not enough information'. Two are still being researched. So far, my daughter has been a target of a push down the stairs, an iphone planted in her back-pack and the police called, had scissors thrown at her, arm twisting/scratching, and hit in the face so that her lip swelled/bled. When we met with head of HR/ass't super, very limited questions were asked about the (most current) event itself (face hit), many more questions were asked about how long it took to report, where all the blood was, and whether or not my daughter had done something to make it bleed more (to make it look worse). I totally don't understand this line of questioning, can anyone explain it to please? What is the goal of an investigation? The situation is quite awful really, it is as if the bullying/harassment weren't bad enough, but this on top of that is simply awful and I actually feel violated and fear for what will happen next to my daughter at school.
We are sorry you are currently struggling so much with this current situation. It sounds like you have worked very hard to protect your daughter. Good for you. We are sorry you feel as though you are spinning your wheels.
Please continue to make reports and jump through these hoops. We do not understand their line of questioning, but you are in the process of creating a paper trail which is important. The longer the paper trail, the better. We think that another step that would be beneficial for you to take right now would to get in touch with other students and the parents of those students who may have witnessed some of the bullying that your daughter has experienced. If you can get some other parents to report this behavior as well, it is more likely that the school will take them seriously. Also you may learn that your daughter is not the only on in this situation. When parents band together, there is strength. Please go to Parent-Teacher groups and meetings and see if you can get a support team. Also consider contacting police, the school board, and other city officials as necessary.
For your daughter, please try to find an environment outside of school for her that is safe and a place where she feels accepted and cared for. It may be an after school club, a church group, or volunteering somewhere like an animal shelter. Sometimes creating positive experiences and situations for our children can make the hard stuff easier to deal with. Also if the bullying continues to be severe, it may be worth considering a transfer of schools if possible. We realize that this may seem unfair because the bully should be the one who has to go, but if it is going to improve the quality of her life and allow her to feel safe, it may be worth it.
Please stay patient, love and support your daugther as best you can, and find others to stand with you. Please take care and call us if you ever need to talk. We are a hotline for parents and are available 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Please take care!
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