Are there educational alternatives for a 6-year-old who has not entered school yet, has behavioral problems, and is both bladder and bowel incontinent?
this child is already a year late entering kindergarten, has ADHD, RAD, separation anxiety from his mother, and has not mastered control of his bodily functions. He needs schooling but mainstream schools are not willing to take him unless is his "potty" trained.
Please contact the special education team that is located in your child's public school. Every school district in the United States offers special education services to children who meet criteria. I would think that your child, at the very least, would be a candidate for a full psycho-educational evaluation by the school team. This group of professionals can include a behavioral therapist who will help with any bladder or bowel difficulties if there is not a medical disorder. Moreover, school teams can also work closely with physicians to help create a protocol to help your child in this area.
Keep in mind that being denied public education is illegal in the United States. Only if your child has an individualized educational plan that you have participated with and you fully agreed to alternative education can a child receive an educational program that is not completely inclusive with regular education.
I have added a website that explains parental rights in public education.