How do I explain gay marriage to my first grader?
Our daughter was initially exposed to gay marriage in preschool, where she attended with several children who had gay parents. At that time, I just explained that some kids have two mommies or two daddies, and that's ok - it's different than her parents but ok for them and those kids. She didn't ask any follow-up questions, never made any embarrassing comments about the gay parents, and played nicely with their children.
Now that she's older, she's started making some negative comments about gay marriage and gay parenting, and I'm very concerned and uncomfortable with this behavior. For instance, she'll see a gay couple or family in public or in TV news coverage, and say to me, "That's weird" or "I have a mommy and daddy, and they don't!". The messages I used with her when she was in preschool don't seem to be resonating as well anymore.
Any ideas for how I can explain this to her in simple terms she'll understand, and more importantly, in a way that will foster tolerance for diversity? I don't think avoiding the conversation is an option anymore, particularly if her comments continue (and/or arise at a time that would be hurtful to gay people and/or their children). I also don't agree with the notion that gay marriage is against God's will, so that's not an option either. Please help!