I am having to take our daughters father back to child support and haven't in six years because I shouldn't have to explain to him that she is growing and needs new clothes shoes..and yes now even bras. For school this year he only bought a book bag, two bras a water bottle and a pencil box. My husband and I bought, whom he also considers his daughter, jeans,shirts,new tennis shoes (4 pair), socks, underwear, tights new book bags, lunchboxes (2), lunch meats and all the fix-ens, new coats (2) one we had to lay away, and had no problem paying almost $1000 for her. Her real dad did the bare minimum, because he thinks that the child support order from 2004 should be enough in 2011! He constantly let's his mother foot the bill for dinner when he is supposed to have our daughter, buy her clothes and shoes etc. I was told by his mother I had no right to tell him that he and I should be the ones to do so for our daughter, and that she wasn't "picking up his slack"..in other words she does so he wouldn't have to. Meanwhile our daughter comes home daddy has the new IPHONE, APPLE PAD2, so does his wife, and got her a kindle fire that she isn't allowed to bring home even though she asked for it for her schoolwork. step mother loaded her magazines on it and no books for our daughter. Allows her to bring home little toy figurines and a dsi 3d yeah that will definitely get her to college! Please help because I have really had enough of the hey I don't want to pay let my mother syndrome.