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I feel as if I cannot handle my 2 yr old son anymore
I have no idea how to go about this my 2 yr old son is so bad I feel like I really need help what's worse is he only acts this way with me. I have a 3 yr old daughter who is an angel I rarely have problems with her she's a very good girl unlike my son and I really need some opinions. A perfect example of my son tonight I layed them both down for bed gave them both hugs and kisses 5 Min's. After that my daughter comes in my room crying that he bit her and pulled her hair so I got up layer him back down turned off his TV and walked out but in the mists of me doing all this he starts screaming at the top of his lungs kicking the walls and throwing him self on the floor I feel that hitting is wrong I tried talking to him I tried time out and even asking my family for help everyone says your wrong he's such a good boy but they don't see what goes on when its just us someone please help I don't no what else to do my kids mean the world to me and id rather find a solution than separate my self from him SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME......
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Discipline and behavior challenges
> 60 days ago
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You're doing the right thing to ask for help; you're in a frustrating position, and I think many parents can sympathize with you. The first thing to remember is that this too shall pass - it won't be this challenging forever! I also hope you have some quiet moments away from your children, so you can refresh yourself between challenges.
I think the first reply, to check in with your child's dr. is a good start, but I have some other suggestions too.
First, are the children sharing a room, or are they in separate rooms? If your son is hurting or bothering his sister, then it would be very helpful to separate them. A child safe gate on his bedroom door could solve that particular problem if they are in different rooms.
You also mentioned that he had his tv on. I think most experts agree that young children don't need televisions in their bedrooms, and having it available may make it much harder to go to sleep. Please consider taking it out of the bedroom, not as a punishment or temporarily, just remove it. The tv is a distraction that can keep your son awake, and depending on what he is watching, may contribute to his acting out.
I love that you tucked your children in with hugs and kisses, that is a very positive way for your children to start their sleep time. It sounds like your son may still be "wound up", and need more calming activities - you don't mention the rest of your bedtime routine, but working other soothing activities into your evening may also help him to relax and be calm and ready for sleep. A warm bath is soothing for a lot of kiddos, as is a small, healthy snack - think milk and crackers, not anything sugary. When teeth are brushed and the children are ready to get into bed, snuggle up and share a few calm children's books.
There are a lot of different ways your children may respond to all this, and a lot of different techniques to try if this doesn't work. Start with a calm bedtime routine, and see how it goes. Try to stay calm, and have some breaks when you need them. If you feel totally frustrated, remember you can call the Boys Town hotline at 1-800-448-3000.
Good luck to you!
I think the first reply, to check in with your child's dr. is a good start, but I have some other suggestions too.
First, are the children sharing a room, or are they in separate rooms? If your son is hurting or bothering his sister, then it would be very helpful to separate them. A child safe gate on his bedroom door could solve that particular problem if they are in different rooms.
You also mentioned that he had his tv on. I think most experts agree that young children don't need televisions in their bedrooms, and having it available may make it much harder to go to sleep. Please consider taking it out of the bedroom, not as a punishment or temporarily, just remove it. The tv is a distraction that can keep your son awake, and depending on what he is watching, may contribute to his acting out.
I love that you tucked your children in with hugs and kisses, that is a very positive way for your children to start their sleep time. It sounds like your son may still be "wound up", and need more calming activities - you don't mention the rest of your bedtime routine, but working other soothing activities into your evening may also help him to relax and be calm and ready for sleep. A warm bath is soothing for a lot of kiddos, as is a small, healthy snack - think milk and crackers, not anything sugary. When teeth are brushed and the children are ready to get into bed, snuggle up and share a few calm children's books.
There are a lot of different ways your children may respond to all this, and a lot of different techniques to try if this doesn't work. Start with a calm bedtime routine, and see how it goes. Try to stay calm, and have some breaks when you need them. If you feel totally frustrated, remember you can call the Boys Town hotline at 1-800-448-3000.
Good luck to you!
> 60 days ago
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