Hi I'm sos123 and I really want to get help on how to fix a lie a made hears the thing okay when I arrived to my new school all the girls wanted to know about me but I wasn't really interesting so they slowly stopped talking to me so then I thought to my self hey how about I lie about my birth and say I was born in Russia which is my favorite country and ever since then I started telling everyone in my school and they actually believed me and this has kept on going on for 3 years and I feel really bad and I also lied again and said that I had ADHD and dyslexia because I was always dumb and I still am for lying. Seriously I feel like that there is something wrong with me because no one does this stuff.
Okay, so first off, let me tell you something. A few years ago I lied about a lot of very serious things to my friends. In my defence, I was on drugs and my perception was completely off but it still remains I lied. For a while I didnt feel anything but for the past year I have been beating myself up about this and constantly feeling guilty. Now I have been able to tell my best friends and feel that I have gotten over the lie, though I do still think about it often. However, were someone to ask me now I would have no qualms in telling them the truth, as I believe I am a different person and have moved on.
Now I would reccomend telling someone/people, it makes you feel a lot better and it does show courage - people will respect you for telling the truth, however you may not be ready or feel that you can tell anyone, in that case thing about these next points:
1. You obviously have a conscience - it shows that you are a good person through the fact that you are feeling bad about this, and you should cherish that, because some people tell lies all the time and never feel guilty
2. you obviously want to make things right, again, brownie points to you
3. If you cant tell anyone, I think that you should think about the future, and ponder how this lie could have made you a better person - first off make a point of being honest - thats what Im doing and it helps. Also, try and be good to people on the whole - by realizing you have done something wrong you can also learn to accept what is right - do that, and the lie will almost be a good thing as you will have learned how to behave in the future
4. Everyone deserves a second chance - I spent six months exaggerating my life and then told a huge, very serious lie as a result of drugs, howvever I am thankful that I have learnt from it as it now means I can be good and feel good about myself
Hope this helps
Tell them the truth no matter how bad or hard it is a tiny white lie has jut caught up with me and my boyfriend I've been with for a very long time almost 2 years is about to break up with me and I told him the truth but I seem to be to late don't let ur lie hurt u tell them the truth please do it before u end up regretting it .
I was also in a massive lie once, and for me there were three options: Keep lying, tell them the truth, or if you can't tell the truth without everyone hating you and or not forgiving you then stop talking about the lie altogether. I chose the last one and everyone stopped talking about the lie/lies.
I was also in a similar situation. I LIED to everyone ,said that my parents are divorced but in reality its was not so. I did so to gain sympathy.... N I got sympathy but the result was that even though I got good friends I couldnt invite the to my house or bring them over to my family.they also kinda judged me. I was depressed.... Started doing drugs( weed n opiates) and lost all my respect. Everybody though bad of me.. Though they don't know that I lied but since I was a junkie they isolated me. Even a girl who was involved with me broke connections. I understand how difficult this can be. I recommend that you change your school/college. I know this seems too much but trust me... Its the best that you can do. I had been clean for 1 month and feel good. I do regret wasting 1 year at law school but its fine. I am getting transferred to a new college after confessing drug problems to my parents who were happy to help me but the fact that I lied will be my deepest,darkest secret. If u wanna talk I'm sure there will be someone willing to listen.IT GETS BETTER
ive also told a big lie about kissing i told that i had kissed with a few girls to my best friends because the have but i havent. the next day i was with a girl but we didn't kiss her the next day they all got mad at me because they thought i didn't kiss her so i told them i did. The day after that the asked the girl and she sad we didn't kiss and they told me they asked her. So i paniced and kept telling them we did. like 5 min ago i texted my friends and told the truth. the are really angry and i don't know if its ever going te be fixed but i am happy that i don't have to lie anymore