Brenna123
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Q:
Grade school bullying
What would be the next step after talking to school principle about second grade classmate bullying and threatening to bring a knife and gun to school to "kill" my son, he goes into details about how he will do it. My son is afraid to go to school and has had night mares about this happening. I feel they don't take this serious because of his age.
In Topics:
Working with school administrators, Bullying and teasing
> 60 days ago
What the Expert Says:
Additional Answers (3)
Hi Brenna,
I am so sorry to hear that your family is going through this. You're absolutely right to insist that the school takes this situation seriously. If the school administrators aren't responsive, I would take your complaints straight to the school district/school board-level. And if you're still unhappy, go to the local police.
Good luck! My heart goes out to your son and your family.
Best,
Alex
Community Team
I am so sorry to hear that your family is going through this. You're absolutely right to insist that the school takes this situation seriously. If the school administrators aren't responsive, I would take your complaints straight to the school district/school board-level. And if you're still unhappy, go to the local police.
Good luck! My heart goes out to your son and your family.
Best,
Alex
Community Team
> 60 days ago
By Michelle Ball, California Education Attorney for Students since 1995
FYI- never ever presume the schools ARE doing their jobs adequately. You must stay involved. Parents ALWAYS need to know what is going on to ensure the schools are doing what they are supposed to do. Kids usually will not report issues to school staff on their own and feel they have no power. If school officials don't notice something is going on, parents must step in. I have heard too many horror stories to believe otherwise.
Schools are under an obligation to take action when they know bullying or targeting is occurring. They may also punish the students involved (see California Education Code sections 48900(r) and 48900.4). However, I get calls weekly from parents whose kids are being targeted while the school ignores a known situation. Often the parents have verbally told the school, but the school has done nothing.
Here are my best suggestions of what to do to get action from the school and stop the bullying:
1) Talk to your kids every single day about what is going on at school. Really get into problems they are having and who the problems are with.
2) Go observe your children at school. Get advanced permission from the school. Then, sit and watch what is going on with your child from a distance.
3) If anything comes up in your discussions and/or observation involving repetitive taunting, pushing, etc. note this down. Keep a daily journal of what is going, where it happens, and who is involved.
4) If things are bad, and/or physical at all, send a letter to the school regarding what is going on. Ask for a meeting and action by the school.
5) Meet with the powers that be and develop a plan to stop the bullying. Bring a list of items you WANT put in place such as a shadow to follow your child, a meeting with the other kids' parents, daily email, etc. This list will be unique to each student, depending on the situation.
6) If they ignore you, send your letter to the Superintendent.
7) If things continue to occur, send DAILY LETTERS OUTLINING WHAT IS GOING ON. Paper trails are great for making people act.
8) You can also file a complaint in writing with the District, or could even go to your local grand jury to file a complaint if you are getting nowhere.
10) Pick up your child or walk them to/from school if possible.
11) Protect your kids. If the school and district are non-responsive, you must protect your child as a first action while you resolve the problems. This may mean transfer to another school, independent study, your supervision at school as needed, etc. Their safety is paramount. You do not want to have your son or daughter end up like the boy in Philadelphia who was beaten by a group of kids and left hanging from a fence.
12) Attorney involvement at any point can also help.
The school will control what they do in response to the bullying, but you can influence them by providing a list of what you think will solve the problem.
Don't neglect this. Parents must take control to the degree they can, or their child may be left hanging beaten from a fence or worse.
Best,
Michelle Ball
Education Law Attorney
LAW OFFICE OF MICHELLE BALL
717 K Street, Suite 228
Sacramento, CA 95814
Phone: 916-444-9064
Fax: 916-444-1209
Website: http://www.edlaw4students.com/
Blog: http://edlaw4students.blogspot.com/
Twitter: http://twitter.com/michelleaball
Please see my disclaimer on the bottom of my blog page [http://edlaw4students.blogspot.com/]. This is legal information, not legal advice and no attorney-client relationship is formed by this posting, etc. etc.! This blog may not be reproduced without permission from the author and proper attribution of authorship.
FYI- never ever presume the schools ARE doing their jobs adequately. You must stay involved. Parents ALWAYS need to know what is going on to ensure the schools are doing what they are supposed to do. Kids usually will not report issues to school staff on their own and feel they have no power. If school officials don't notice something is going on, parents must step in. I have heard too many horror stories to believe otherwise.
Schools are under an obligation to take action when they know bullying or targeting is occurring. They may also punish the students involved (see California Education Code sections 48900(r) and 48900.4). However, I get calls weekly from parents whose kids are being targeted while the school ignores a known situation. Often the parents have verbally told the school, but the school has done nothing.
Here are my best suggestions of what to do to get action from the school and stop the bullying:
1) Talk to your kids every single day about what is going on at school. Really get into problems they are having and who the problems are with.
2) Go observe your children at school. Get advanced permission from the school. Then, sit and watch what is going on with your child from a distance.
3) If anything comes up in your discussions and/or observation involving repetitive taunting, pushing, etc. note this down. Keep a daily journal of what is going, where it happens, and who is involved.
4) If things are bad, and/or physical at all, send a letter to the school regarding what is going on. Ask for a meeting and action by the school.
5) Meet with the powers that be and develop a plan to stop the bullying. Bring a list of items you WANT put in place such as a shadow to follow your child, a meeting with the other kids' parents, daily email, etc. This list will be unique to each student, depending on the situation.
6) If they ignore you, send your letter to the Superintendent.
7) If things continue to occur, send DAILY LETTERS OUTLINING WHAT IS GOING ON. Paper trails are great for making people act.
8) You can also file a complaint in writing with the District, or could even go to your local grand jury to file a complaint if you are getting nowhere.
10) Pick up your child or walk them to/from school if possible.
11) Protect your kids. If the school and district are non-responsive, you must protect your child as a first action while you resolve the problems. This may mean transfer to another school, independent study, your supervision at school as needed, etc. Their safety is paramount. You do not want to have your son or daughter end up like the boy in Philadelphia who was beaten by a group of kids and left hanging from a fence.
12) Attorney involvement at any point can also help.
The school will control what they do in response to the bullying, but you can influence them by providing a list of what you think will solve the problem.
Don't neglect this. Parents must take control to the degree they can, or their child may be left hanging beaten from a fence or worse.
Best,
Michelle Ball
Education Law Attorney
LAW OFFICE OF MICHELLE BALL
717 K Street, Suite 228
Sacramento, CA 95814
Phone: 916-444-9064
Fax: 916-444-1209
Website: http://www.edlaw4students.com/
Blog: http://edlaw4students.blogspot.com/
Twitter: http://twitter.com/michelleaball
Please see my disclaimer on the bottom of my blog page [http://edlaw4students.blogspot.com/]. This is legal information, not legal advice and no attorney-client relationship is formed by this posting, etc. etc.! This blog may not be reproduced without permission from the author and proper attribution of authorship.
> 60 days ago
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