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My Grandson has been in trouble for doing things other kids tell him to do when they know what they are telling him is wrong. Is this bullying?

In Topics: Bullying and teasing
> 60 days ago

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Boys Town National Hotline
Sep 28, 2010
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Thank you for contacting Education.com!

One way you and your grandson's parents can help your grandson is by teaching him to identify his feelings. By being aware of when something feels good or bad in his gut, he will come to understand that when things don't sound or feel right to him, that he should not do what others tell him to do.

You don't mention the ages of your grandson and the other kids, but the situation as you describe sounds like teasing which is a form of bullying. This could definitely could turn into more serious bullying if left unchecked. If the other kids are older than your son, it would be a good idea to tell the children's parents about it. If the kids are his same age and in the same class, consider talking to his teacher about it first so he/she can be on watch for these behaviors. If you feel the school is not doing enough, you can most certainly speak with the children's parents.

Continue to praise your grandson for good behavior and for not doing the bad things other kids tell him to do. Give him opportunities to play with friends who are respectful. Watch your grandson's interactions with his friends and encourage him to share and take turns.

For more information and ideas on specific parenting issues, please go to our website: www.parenting.org If you would like to speak with a counselor, we are available 24 hours, 7 days a week. Take care and best to you and your grandson!

Sincerely,
Cynthia, Crisis Counselor
Boys Town National Hotline
1-800-448-3000
www.parenting.org
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Patrick08
Patrick08 writes:
Bullying is an imbalance of power, with the more powerful abusing the less powerful in either a social or physical way.  If your child believes that if he/she doesn't do what the other kids tell him/her to do there will be physical or social repercussions than this is bullying.
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Karenmom
Karenmom writes:
Yes, in my opinion this is bullying.  Some children enjoy telling another child something wrong and sitting back allowing that child to get in trouble or so they can have a laugh at his expense.  I volunteer in school and have seen cases like this.  One little girl gave a coin to another little girl (1st grader) and told her to "eat it", needless to say what could have come from this act, I was fortunate to see and stop the child from putting the coin in her mouth, she was actually going to try to eat the coin or at the very least, put it in her mouth.

Some children are so trusting that they believe anything that an older child or even their piers tell them and therefore, do suffer the consequences.  Talk to your grandson and explain to him that although it is sad, he can not trust others, to use his own judgement and if something doesn't quiet sound right, then it's not.  Teach about his own instincts and to trust himself.  It could keep him safe.  I've included a couple of resources for you to look at and maybe they will offer some advice on how to do this.  Best wishes!

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EdieRaether
EdieRaether , Teacher writes:
Good question, but we don't have to put a label on it to fix it.  
You need to strengthen his sense of right and wrong and to believe in himself.   A lot to ask of a young child but it will always help him.
Ask how he feels when he follows the bad advice of others.  Get him in touch with his own inner guidance.  It is there and will do him well
take care,
Edie

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