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how do i handle my four and half years daughter she is so harsh and rude,i.e she says am not coming when u call her
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Discipline and behavior challenges
> 60 days ago
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Children learn by example. Beating your child is not a good example. You are teaching your child to hit people.
Have you considered having a conversation with your child? Did it ever occur to you that perhaps your child might be a person? Do you listen to your child or do you simply tell your child what to do? Do you treat her like a person or do you treat her like you treat your dog?
There are laws against torturing animals. Maybe you should think about applying some of those laws to your child and not treat her like she's your pet to do with as you please.
My neighbor smacks his dog around. It upsets him when his dog runs over to me. I pet the dog kindly, scratch her behind the ears and treat her as if I like her because I like her. The dog is always happy to see me. The dog cringes when my neighbor puts his hand out. He can't understand why the dog doesn't always listen to him and he has to yell at her and chase after her. I never chase the dog. The dog always runs to me.
Are you harsh and rude to your child? Do you give your child a reason to come to you or do you give your child a reason to avoid you? I see kids at the market, some are very well behaved, others are out of control. The well behaved children ask their mother or father a question, the parent responds calmly with love.
The out of control kids grab things off shelves, sit down on the floor, throw tantrums, etc. Their parents grab their hands, yank them around, drag them, scream at them, spank them and other immature behavior. Where do you think the child gets it?
Which child do you think will grow up to be a bully, either verbal or physical. Which child do you think will be a problem child in school and at home. Which child do you think will hit other people and pick fights? Here's a hint. Children only know what they're taught. What is your child learning from you?
Have you considered having a conversation with your child? Did it ever occur to you that perhaps your child might be a person? Do you listen to your child or do you simply tell your child what to do? Do you treat her like a person or do you treat her like you treat your dog?
There are laws against torturing animals. Maybe you should think about applying some of those laws to your child and not treat her like she's your pet to do with as you please.
My neighbor smacks his dog around. It upsets him when his dog runs over to me. I pet the dog kindly, scratch her behind the ears and treat her as if I like her because I like her. The dog is always happy to see me. The dog cringes when my neighbor puts his hand out. He can't understand why the dog doesn't always listen to him and he has to yell at her and chase after her. I never chase the dog. The dog always runs to me.
Are you harsh and rude to your child? Do you give your child a reason to come to you or do you give your child a reason to avoid you? I see kids at the market, some are very well behaved, others are out of control. The well behaved children ask their mother or father a question, the parent responds calmly with love.
The out of control kids grab things off shelves, sit down on the floor, throw tantrums, etc. Their parents grab their hands, yank them around, drag them, scream at them, spank them and other immature behavior. Where do you think the child gets it?
Which child do you think will grow up to be a bully, either verbal or physical. Which child do you think will be a problem child in school and at home. Which child do you think will hit other people and pick fights? Here's a hint. Children only know what they're taught. What is your child learning from you?
> 60 days ago
1. What every she is doing or playing with must be taken away immediately. So if she is playing with her dolls, take them away, if she is watching TV turn it off.
2. Every time she does not come you must go get her and have a talk with her - everytime about the importance of listening and doing what mommy and daddy say. Then put her to stand in the corner until she apologies for not listening and says she wants to come out.
3. The first time she asks to come out of the corner pretend you do not hear her, also the second time( you must be in the room where she is being punished)
She will call your name again - then go to her and ask her how she felt when she called you and you did not answer .
But remember she must be punished everytime she talks back to you. You can never be too tired or can't be bothered.
2. Every time she does not come you must go get her and have a talk with her - everytime about the importance of listening and doing what mommy and daddy say. Then put her to stand in the corner until she apologies for not listening and says she wants to come out.
3. The first time she asks to come out of the corner pretend you do not hear her, also the second time( you must be in the room where she is being punished)
She will call your name again - then go to her and ask her how she felt when she called you and you did not answer .
But remember she must be punished everytime she talks back to you. You can never be too tired or can't be bothered.
> 60 days ago
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