mehum asks:

What is a healthy visitation schedule for a 3-year old to visit his mother and father who do not have custody and are not toghether?

We have custody of our 3 year old grandson . Both of his parents have had drug problems and have been incarcerated for a variety of things. His mother is currently incarcerated and his father is on parole from prison. his father is doing well and participating in work related schooling and life skills classes provided by the prison system.
The baby and his mother lived with us (Grandparents-mothers) from birth to 2 years of age, until his mother robbed us and was arrested. We have had permanent custody through the court for 1 year and the mother is not allowed visitations due to drug problems and incarceration. The father was not allowed at our home for the first 2 years of the baby's life. The mother did see the father and his family with the baby occasionally without our permission.
The father is doing fairly well now and we have consented to allow the baby to visit and stay with his father and other grandparents on weekends. During the week we have the baby in preschool for 3 days while we work.
The baby is exhibiting anxiety and separation problems. We cannot walk from one room to another without him dropping everything and running behind or yelling our names to come back even if it is a room that is within sight. We have changed day care and he acts the same with the teachers.
Is the constant transition between families and daycare what is negatively impacting our little grandson? What is a healthy balance for visiting? How can we ease out of the separation anxiety?
Member Added on Feb 23, 2011
I thoght that perhaps these questions were review by a panel of professionals.  Do these ever get answered or is this a waste of time?  How long should I leave this posted before I resolve that this site is useless?
In Topics: Children and stress, Child care, My child's grandparent(s)
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