How can i helpmy 15 yr old daughter stay safe when she is being bullied

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trish2301 asks:

high school bullying, gangs intimidating threatning and bullying my 15 yr old daughter. shes scared doesnt wanna go to school and want to quit cheer. when just last week she was living FOR cheer and dance HELP im scared along w her I wanna protect my baby

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We are sorry that your daughter is being treated this way at school. You don't mention if the bullies are male or female but either way, the school needs to know what is happening, especially if there is gang involvement. Chances are your daughter is not the only one being harassed. If these kids can get away with treating one person this way, they will do it to others as well.

Your daughter's well-being is your main priority. Make sure she is taking care of herself by eating and sleeping well. Allow her to spend time with good friends who are respectful. She should not have to quit doing the activities she likes to do in fear that she is going to be harassed or threatened. Don't allow her to skip school, but encourage her to stand up for herself. Suggest she talk to her cheerleading coach about why she wants to quit. Suggest she talk with her school counselor or school social worker about the bullying. If she refuses to talk to them on her own, you should contact them and inform them of the situation.

No child or teenager should feel afraid to go to school because of fear of being bullied. Many schools are implementing anti-bullying programs and have strict rules against disrespect and verbal abuse. If your school administration is not helpful, go to the district superintendent and make a complaint.

If you would like to speak with a counselor about this issue in more detail, please call or e-mail our Hotline. You can also give our number to your daughter. She may also find our website for teens to be helpful: www.yourlifeyourvoice.org
Our counselors are available 24 hours, 7 days a week to help and support parents and teens. Take care and best wishes to you and your daughter!

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Cynthia, Counselor
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aqblickley writes:

Hi trish2301,

I'm so sorry to hear that your daughter is being bullied. It's wonderful that you are so aware and proactive in dealing with the issue. She is lucky to have such an involved parent in her life.

It is important that you make the school staff aware of the problem, and get them actively involved. It seems that it's affecting your daughter's quality of life, so this is definitely an important issue to deal with as soon as possible, which it seems you're already aware of. If your daughter is being threatened physically, the police should be involved, too.

Make sure that you're there to listen to your daughter when she needs it. It's important that she knows she has a friend in you, no matter how lonely or intimidated she feels at school.

I'm so sorry to hear that this is happening, but please don't wait another minute. Contact the school directly and immediately. If they don't take active steps to deal with the bullying situation, then get law enforcement involved. Your daughter's safety and well-being is at stake.

Thanks for asking, and good luck.

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aqblickley writes:

Additionally, another parent asked a similar question and got some great feedback. I'm including the link to her question page below.

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http://www.education.com/question/daughter-bullied-teacher-school-administration-stop-it/

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justice65 , Caregiver, Parent writes:

As you might know they are anti bullying laws regarding bullying in schools .As her parent you want to put a bullying complaint in writing to the school administartors and file a report to the police regarding the gang threats toward your child, this is a police matter .Most high schools have resource officers on school grounds .You also want to get the school counselor, social worker her couch etc. involved this will let them know that you are serioes about not allowing your child to be bullied while in school .If this fails you can go to the board and file your complaint keep making noise until someone hears you, dont stop! If you fear doint it your self locate a support group in your area that can help you go thru the process. Good Luck

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helper13 writes:

I was bullied for 2 years and my mom really helped first tell the principal the girls names believe me it will make it better then if he does nothing tell the school board

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