lrna83 , Parent asks:

Should I hold my kindergartner back although his grades are fine?

When my 5 year old started kindergartner, I was well aware of the possibility that he may have to repeat it again next year.  Although he already knew his ABC's (sounds), colors, could count to 100 etc...  He didn't know how to write or even hold a pencil.  But with so much determination & hard work, he was able to write within a few weeks.  He writes with his left hand & his handwriting isn't as "perfect" as the school thinks it should be but it's legible.  I was so proud of his 3rd quarter report card because all the grades were S or S+.

Regardless of how good his grades are, the school is still recommending that he be held back because of his "behavior" & lack of confidence.  He has always been a perfectionist & when he doesn't understand something or does it wrong he gets VERY down on himself & shuts down or cries.  His teacher believes that holding him back will boost his confidence because he will already know everything.  I agree, but I'm worried that it may hurt his confidence because he will wonder what he did wrong & may even be teased.  I understand his emotional behavior is a problem but I just don't know if holding him back will fix this problem.  Isn't this something that the school counselors are there for?  I have never received any kind of note, phone call, or email concerning his behavior from his school.  Is this really a good reason to hold him back?
In Topics: School and Academics, Learning styles and differences, Self esteem and identity
> 60 days ago



May 9, 2013
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What the Expert Says:


Please review the materials and information here on regarding RETENTION.  There are many factors which should be considered before retention is  fully decided among parents and educators, in my opinion.  

Here is  links which may be helpful.

Good luck!

Louise Sattler,
School Psychologist

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