We found out a recently that my husband's 12 yr. old daughter (my stepdaughter whom I've been mothering since she was 5) is cutting.We knew she has been trying to cope for years with intense anger about the family situation where her "real" mother has told her that she's to blame for an emergency change of custody order which resulted in my husband having sole custody. My stepdaughter had been involved in therapy since she was about 4 (when it became obvious that her mother's addiction was causing the marriage problems). Her breaking point occurred after she told the court counselor that her mother made her tape record herself saying that she hated her father & didn't want to live with him. That's when custody changed abruptly. Because she was so young at the time, she didn't appear to be troubled over telling about this "secret". Now she's older, & trying to put the puzzle together. She has deep resentment towards therapy & absolutely no trust in any adult that attempts to talk to her about her pain. She's been flat out refusing therapy for over a year now. We made her go for a few months, but she won't participate. She glares and scowls and tells the therapist that she refuses to talk. We know that she desperately needs help, but are at a loss as to what to do. Please help!