mary07502 asks:

My kids are going into a semi-private High School since they have been home schooled up until now, What should they expect?

Are kids still mean/bullies, This school is new and all students will be wearing uniforms. Probably the only difference will be the shoes and hair style.
In Topics: Back to school, Discipline and behavior challenges
> 60 days ago



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Sep 22, 2009
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Both you and your kids can expect to go through an adjustment period that may last a few months.  The road may be bumpy for a little while, so be prepared to hang in there.  Your kids may feel a little overwhelmed at the beginning, but explain to them that this is normal and they need to give themselves some time.  Encourage them to get involved in as many activities as they can at their new school.  This will help them make new friends and find something that they are passionate about that they can stay involved in throughout the year.  Encourage them to be themself and not try to act like something they aren't just so they can fit in or feel cool.  

Depending upon the school, they may find that the school work is more or less challenging.  Remind them that there are lots of people at school that want them to succeed, so they need to ask for help if they feel like they are falling behind academically.  Their teachers and school counselor are all there to help them adjust.  It may help them to keep a journal during their first few months of school to write about things that are difficult or frustrating.  Not only will that help them to express their feelings, it may also be interesting for them to reflect on later in their life.  

Unfortunately bullying seems to happen everywhere.  That doesn't mean your child will automatically be bullied, but let them know that it does exist so they're prepared. If they find themselves in an uncomfortable situation encourage them to ignore the bully and talk to an adult about what's going on.  It's great to hear that school uniforms are being used.  Uniforms help to protect the kids from some forms of discrimination in regards to what brand of clothing they wear, or how expensive their clothes are.  

As long as you keep the lines of communication open, you and your children will be off to a good start.  Let them know that as issues or problems arise they can always come talk to you about it.  

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lkauffman writes:
Great question. Bullies definitely still exist, but the culture and tolerance of each school is very different. Some schools have very explicit policies regarding bullying, and they do an excellent job of intervening quickly and handling the situation with the seriousness it requires. Other schools are not as adept at managing bullying, and we get A LOT of questions on this forum from parents struggling with these types of schools.

Do you know any parents of students currently attending the school? You can ask them for their insight and experiences regarding the school. This will help you prepare. If your kids should encounter any kind of bullying, I strongly encourage you to talk with them about different positive steps they can take to stop the bullying and/or be prepared to advocate for your child on their behalf. For more on bullying, take a look at the following section of the site:

In other areas, again, each school varies. Some schools are more academically oriented. Others are more sports-focused. Some have happy and motivated teachers. Others have difficulty maintaining a consistent faculty. There are so many variables.

I understand that you are concerned and worried about what your children can expect from school after spending some time in home school. Do your best to be optimistic and positive about the school and the school experience (being realistic, of course) because your children will definitely pick up on your attitude, and it could affect how they perceive and experience the school.

Best wishes,

L. Compian, Ph.D.
Child Psychologist
> 60 days ago

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