mayfieldga , Teacher asks:

Have researchers looked at aggressive treatment given to boys such as less kind support, verbal feedback and discipline, creating distance so less maturity over time?

Have researchers looked at comparatively much less kind stable verbal interaction, support and more/increased aggression given as early as 9 months? I feel over time the distance created by this aggression and neglect creates less vocabulary, more defensiveness, distrust, stress, higher muscle tension (also causing impeded handwriting and motivation to write), increased lag in mental/emotional/social growth due to all of the above.
while girls conversely with much more kind positive verbal support are getting ahead verbally, socially, mentally and emotionally.  This can create differences in brain activity.  So how about looking at those social causes first.

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Member Added on Aug 26, 2010
I feel in last ten years outlet of aggression allowed toward Males has been used by parents teachers significant others and even media as means of catharsis upon Males of all ages but more toward young Males. Since boys are to be tough this outlet goes without concern

Since treatment of girls is tied to nineteenth century belief girls should be protected there is more protection for Females more kind stable mental/emotional/social/verbal interaction from early age also significantly more love honor respect care from parents teachers significant others for being girls.

As aggression and neglect is allowed on Males as catharsis conveyance of love kindness care also acts as catharsis of stress for parents teachers significant others for girls. Since society holds two different values of treatment for boys and girls this shows logically how the two groups have been pulled far apart in the last 10 years due to differential treatment. Society's values allow both catharsis of aggression/love/care but different for boys and girls
This would explain why boys mature more slowly how higher stress creates more activity as natural stress relief higher muscle tension creates sloppy handwriting-less motivation to write and more escapes from school using sports and video games to generate love honor respect from peers/parents when not able to achieve from school
theory to all on request mayfieldga@bellsouth.
In Topics: School and Academics, Learning styles and differences, My child's growth and development
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Aug 26, 2010
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Over the years, researchers have looked at the variety of ways in which parents, teachers and strangers respond differently to boys and girls. Indeed, for many years, the populace was more concerned about girls because girls tend to struggle with more internalizing problems like depression, anxiety, and eating disorders (particularly around the transition to adolescence). And, many girls tend to drop out of more difficult math and science courses in middle school, high school, and college, often "tracking" themselves out of competitive high paying jobs after graduation. The books Reviving Ophelia by Mary Pipher and Failing at Fairness by Myra and David Sadker.

Recently, however, the tenor of the conversation has changed and many experts are concerned that boys may be falling behind at this time. A number of laws, including Title IX made certain accommodations for girls and women, but some worry that it may have been at the expense of boys. Thus, the focus of attention has turned to boys. Books Boys Adrift by Leonard Sax and Raising Cain by Kindlon and Thomson touch upon some of the dynamics you asked about above.

The bottom line is that a child's emotional and behavioral well-being is extremely complex. Genetics clearly intersects with environmental conditions, such as the way in which people respond to a child (based upon their gender). There are many factors in the environment that influence a child. You might want to start with some of the books I listed to begin exploring the impact of gender on boys...and girls.

Warm regards,

Laura Kauffman, Ph.D.
Licensed Child Psychologist
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