I'm lost. My good kid made a bad choice. What can I do?

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hi i'm looking for some advice with this, my son is 9 nd in the 5th grade on tuesday he made a very bad choice nd took a play gun to school not with the intent to hurt anyone but still that choice alone was wrong in every way well he was suspended and faces expulsion. Well you also must know that i work for the school district and my job of all jobs is to ensure that all children are in a safe environmentbut this just ripped me apart we talk everyday about safety at school what is excepted nd not he knows the rules i'm emotionally drain we now have to face what ever the district decides together. what else can i do i talk myself to death about this to him and he still made a bad choice
i have to now stay home with him which is now causing me a finanical hardship and i am feeling so lost please help

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Shantell72 writes:

Ohhhh, that is a hard one. From my experience when good kids make bad choices, they are trying to get their parents attention. Albeit, I am sure not always. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in life that we only think we are giving our kids all the attention that they need. I would frimly but lovingly discipline him and try to spend a little bit more alone time with him. Just talking or playing a game. I would also check out who his friends are, b/c at this age they are very influenced by the group they are hanging out with. Good Luck

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Jorkeno writes:

Oh.. That is a bit hard for you. I think in these situations, you should opt to listen and have some chat time to him involving his schools, friends and other interests he might want to share to you. They badly need attention and needs a lot of social communication. In these you may find a lot of things he might just spill in any moment that may surprisingly be a simple bonding for both of you. Never loosen up your patience. Be loving and stay happy at home with his' company.

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EDUCATIONIS... writes:

Well yes he made the bad decision but to keep that from hapening again check his back pack everyday and tell him to never ever do that again but in your nicest voice

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LDSolutions , Child Professional writes:

Remind yourself, we are all human and make mistakes. Mistakes happen. The important thing is that your son acknowledges that what he did was wrong and feels remorse about it. This is extremely important. He NOW needs to make the right decision. This could be apologizing to the school, giving a talk to other kids about making wrong decisions, etc. Talk to him about this. Explain that he is a good person who made a mistake. Now, what can we do to make this better in your eyes and in his eyes.

Resources:

http://www.pridelearningcenter.com

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