Khristyb1118 asks:

Lying and stealing and smoking

My son is 8 years old and has ADHD. He has issues with taking things that he knows are not for children to play with. When he does this it is mostly at night when we are asleep. He takes knives out of the kitchen, cigarettes, and then he will just look at you in the face even though he knows he is caught and lie about it. He always says that he doesn't know why he takes the things. Or that he didn't take it " he found them". I am so lost at what to do. We have tried every punishment we can think of. From taking everything away to grounded to have police officers come over to talk to him to let him know that what he is doing is wrong. PLEASE HELP i am out of options.!!!
In Topics: Discipline and behavior challenges
> 60 days ago



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Mar 29, 2012
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What the Expert Says:


Thanks for taking the time to reach out for some help with your son's behaviors. You're right, the way he has been acting is concerning so we absolutely understand why you would feel so upset by seeing him doing these types of things. The last thing any parent wants is to feel as though their child is out of their control, so reaching out for help was such a great step to take.

You certainly still have options and control over this situation and can take steps to help your son get back on the right track. First, you mentioned that you've tried consequences and even having the police come and speak with him- both of those are great steps. If you feel as though your son's behaviors have gotten to the point that they are just out of scope for what you can help him overcome, it is always a good idea to reach out for help. A child psychologist or counselor would be a great person to reach out to about your son's behaviors. This sounds like a really confusing and stressful experience for you to be going through, there is nothing wrong with reaching out for additional help to get your son's behaviors under control.

Remember that you are important in this whole equation as well. Don't forget to take some time each and every day to cope and manage your own stress level. The last thing you want for yourself is to allow the stress of this experience to overwhelm you. Lean on your support system and don't forget to us your coping skills when you need them.

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