You do not state if you are the child's parent, child care provider, teacher or tutor. However, you can try to motivate this child by giving him opportunities to earn rewards for when he completes his work and when he does what he is told. A reward chart is an excellent tool for which the child can see how their behaviors affect their life. You can get ideas from him on what kinds of things interests him such as toys, sports, foods etc, and you can try to relate to him that way as well.
Praise is also a powerful motivator. Our Common Sense Parenting program believes that parents and teachers should praise children four times for every negative consequence given. In other words, the child should be hearing four more positive comments during the day than they hear negative comments.
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You may need to find ways to encourage or even bribe the child until they get into a stage where they enjoy things. I personally had to give my son prizes everyday for him to try to do good in school. We have finally found out with him that he has ADHD and is taking medicine for it. We had seen a lot of improvement in him and the prizes were able to slow down. Of course we are having problems again with his meds and the bribery is back on the table.
You could even try charts with stickers or other things.