alenaclayto... asks:

Always noticed aggressive behavior in my 2.5 daughter but why does she try to do it when alone or thinks no one is looking?

My 2.5 yr. old daughter has choked her friends (many)(left hand print), picked 1 up by throat and pinned to wall, grabbed by shirt to throw out of chair and took it, threw can of green beans at gma, says no, have walked in on her hitting herself or banging head on floor (we have no paddin) put her lil brother in choke hold (we dont watch wrestling) and tends to do it more when alone playing or thinks we are looking away... is any of this normal?? Ive also noticed she has very low patience like if something doesnt fit she screams and just throws it or tries jammin in there. Is this normal??
In Topics: Discipline and behavior challenges
> 60 days ago



Aug 17, 2010
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What the Expert Says:

Some aggression out of frustration at this age is O.K.  However, hurting other children in a rather violent way, like choking, or animals never is.  Toddlers your daughter's age often throw temper tantrums, because they upset by their inability to express emotions, but banging the head on hard surfaces puts your child at risk for an injury.  I would like to suggest a consultation with your child's regular health care provider.  Perhaps, even a neurologist.

Does your daughter meet all of her developmental milestones for age?  Doe she like hugs, kisses?  Does she maintain eye contact when talked to?  Does she use imagination?  If she is not meeting milestones, does not like to be touched, does not look you in the eye when you talk to her, and does not use imagination when playing with her toy, perhaps she should see evaluated for autism by a neurologist.

Best regards.
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