In observing my son's kindergarten class last year, it was clear that kids enter kindergarten with a really wide range of skills. Some kids were already reading and doing addition and others were working on learning their colors, letters, and shapes. So I think "normal" represents a pretty broad spectrum.
 
If you're at all concerned that your daughter might have developmental or learning challenges, I'd make an appointment with your pediatrician to talk about it. It's much better for you and for your daughter to get a diagnosis early rather than having you both struggle. If your pediatrician says everything's ok then you could just pick a couple of things to work on over the summer to help her get a leg up for kindergarten next year. There are lots of fun games and activities to help kids her age practice basic skills (like learning letters and numbers). Flash cards may just not be fun enough to inspire her to learn.
 
Good luck!
 
Kat

I think a child entering Kindergarten should most certainly know the difference between numbers and letters on flash cards.  They should be able to write and spell their name.  I think tying shoes comes later.

They must know how to tie their shoes...they also need #'s and letter's. Reading and spelling at 5 is excellent but it is part of the curriculum K-5. My friend has an awesome low price shoe tying kit. She helps raise money for autisim research. : )

he should know his alphabet his numbers at least 1-10 or 1-20 his shapes and more.