Should I ask principal to put my son into another grade K class?
My son who just started kindergarten has been said to have been hitting, touching, and not keeping his hands to himself by his teacher. And she has claimed to have talked to him and still he does the same. Though I know for a fact that the only way in which he touches others is by tapping them on the shoulder. I know he knows not to hit. And he is on the verge of being thrown out of school, if he does not improve.
This is a common frustration of parents during this time of transition--from pre-school to kindergarten. Please know that you can teach to your son, the benefits of keeping his hands to himself. He will not frustrate others, and the teacher will have more time to teach the subject rather than be distracted by correcting his behaviors all the time.
Becoming pro-active in this situation is a good idea. Ask the help of the teacher and her assistant. Explain to them, that you are working on appropriate boundaries at home, and you would appreciate their help as they are with your son during the day time hours during the week. Are they able to notice when he seems to be touching others the most? Is it in large groups or when they are waiting in line? Are you able to observe your son in the classroom? Can you talk with the counselor and ask them to make some observations of your son's behavior? What are the consequences that your son is earning for his behavior? Is it a possibility that the teacher can set up some rewards or monitor him more closely in order for her to praise him when he is acting appropriate and keeping his hands to himself?
You can request your child to be moved to a different classroom, but ask yourself what that would achieve? If you feel the teacher is not being supportive or is teaching your son, then yes, that would be a good idea. However, what happens if your son continues to 'not keeping his hands to himself'?
Remember that with consistency, time and patience: teachers and parents can work together to teach kids a wide variety of skills.
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You do need to find out what is going on. I suggest you meet with his teacher and get more specific information. The teacher needs to know that you are very concerned about this and want to find a solution. I have listed a few questions to ask: 1) Is he "allegedly" hitting certain students and not others? 2) Is there more going on as to why he "allegedly is hitting students? 3)Is he hitting or tapping them on the shoulder? Even if he is tapping them on the shoulder, this behavior still needs to be controlled. Understanding boundaries is an important and sometimes difficult behavior for young students to learn. Work with the teacher to establish a plan for eliminating this behavior. This behavior is not uncommon, and most kindergarten teachers know how to correct. It is critical that the parent and the teacher are on the same page in helping the child.
Request to put up a camera in there. This should be a modest and reasonable request, and, depending on your jurisdiction, they may be REQUIRED to let you do this. This way, you can know if the teacher is exaggerating or not, and get her in serious trouble for slander if she is.