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How to react to a 16 year old grandson destroying property when he feels he has upset someone? Tonight he threw and jumped on a big screen TV because he'd upset me.
I told him not to go, but if he did he was disobeying me. His reaction was the above and he said that if he thinks he's upset someone it makes him mad to think he's upset someone and his reaction was also a reaction to the sadness, seemingly a paradox.
This isn't the first time he's done such a thing and I'm almost to the point to having him removed. He's had to stay in a group home and foster care in the past. His parents and his two siblings (13 & 8) live with me and my spouse, and have done so since his birth. I love him dearly but I'm 64 and have had 3 heart attacks, one just after one of his destructive behavior.
I love him but think I might die from the stress. The 3 boys were with only me and we trumped up as an accident rather than tell his parents and my wife. I'm not his biological grandfather and what more can be expected of me?