well it mite be a lil hard to change ur daughter. hi im marie im 15 and im scene.andc im glad to help. now if u dnt like her bein scene tell her. if she has atitude. tell her y. give her a website to go to like urban dictionary scene....im sure that may help. otherwise shes gnna be hard to handle just keep ur hopes up
                              silent♥

Hi, I'm sorry to hear that you're having some struggles with your teenage daughter. Have you talked to a family or school counselor about your concerns? Please consult your family doctor or pediatrician as well.

Boys Town National Hotline (a JustAsk Expert and Education.com Reference partner) also specializes in teen issues (not just for boys). They offer a 24-hour toll-free crisis, resource and referral line you could call: 1-800-448-3000.

Here are some resources on Education.com that may also be helpful to your situation...

Teen Years
http://www.education.com/age/teen-years/

Teen Issues
http://www.education.com/topic/teen-issues/

When Your Teen's New Friend is a Bad Influence
http://www.education.com/magazine/article/Teen_Friend_Bad_Influence/

Understanding an Adolescent Phenomenon: Teens Click With Their Cliques
http://www.education.com/reference/article/understanding-adolescent-teen-cliques/

im 14 and im "scene" you might not like my anwser but the best way t ohandle this is just tell you daughter...and you say it hurting her...but really its just her reaction to being a teen. let her do her thing more times than not she will be back to norm in a few months...

Okay,
1.) You didn't state how old your daughter is.
2.) How is it 'hurting' you and your daughter?

I've been scene for about 3 years now. I've yet to see anything about me hurting my family.

When you say hurting do you mean emotionally or physically? Because if it's physically, that's not scene; that's emo. Or depressed. Whatever. Emotionally . . . How, emotionally? Is it because her family doesn't like the way she is now? Is it because people judge her and because of it people judge you for letting her be that way? If it is, then those people are stupid and naieve. Letting your daughter be expressive is a good thing. And if they're stupid enought to actually JUDGE people, then that's their problem. People who judge people for ANYTHING-whether it be clothes, hair, race, gender, sexuality, etc. are stupid and predjudiced.

Scene isn't bad. It's good. It teaches people to be 100% you and to love who you are. That's what a lot of judgers/poseurs don't get. Even if you're scene, you don't have to be a stereotype. You can be 'scene' while being yourself.

I'm sorry if this answers seems rude or mean, but I honestly don't see how it could be hurting you or your family.

Maybe you should post another question explaining your situation.

Hope I helped! ^_^
kthanxbai.

Hi painting,

I had to do research to find out what a "scene kid" is and after I found out, I could certainly understand your question and concerns.  This is not something that you would want for your daughter.  I found this site that I linked below that explains the steps to STOP being a scene kid.

Hopefully this will help and also you may want to encourage her to dress and act as you would like her to.  Set the examples of what you want her to be, set guidelines as to what is acceptable by you and remind her that her focus should be based on her education opposed to her fashion and attitude.

Best wishes!

here will be many parents who want to change you and don�t understand your behavior�especially if you are extreme scene with piercings and such.
However, your parents need to know that being scene is much different than begin Goth or Emo. Being scene is about self-expression and does not have the negativity associated with these other movements. It is important not to be rebellious. Rather, it is important to embrace yourself and your confidence in being scene. Share the article called Scene Kids Are A Lot Less Depressed And A Lot More� Neon, and happy.

Hi, I guess I'm what you would call a scene kid.
Trust me, Usually we're not that argumentative, I'm an honor role student, and have a very close relationship with my parents.
Pretty weird for a sixteen-year-old, huh?

First off, is your daughter morbidly profane?
if so, try keeping her favourite electronic (an ipod, phone, etc.) away for the same number of days she swore. That definitely kills me!
If she's dressing skimpily, just make fun of her (not too hurtful!).My dad did it with me once or twice, and boy am I glad.
If you argue a lot, think about why.If it involves things like piercings, hair dying, hair products, CDs, just tell her to buy it herself.My parents use this method as if it were a religion up to the point where I have to buy my own clothing.half the time I'm broke because I don't yet have a job.
If she says you're too uptight, remind her who let her become scene in the first place.
third, if she's asking you to go to all of these concerts and shows, ask her who the band is.research them for a little.If it's an all ages show, let her go.If it's not, then don't, or go with her.
Fourth, your daughter probably loves music very much. though bands like brokencyde, blood on the dance floor, dotdotcurve:) are vulgar and innapropriate, it might be impossible to get your daughter to stop listening.I'm not kidding.music freaks cannot be taken from their favourite bands.I'm kind of an example.
 and last (I know, finally!), if she's becoming really emotional, or emotionally violent, she might be getting bullied.It's kind of something that comes with the style, unfortunately.People called me emo and insisted I slit my wrists up to the point where I almost did. Kid's called me weird, and ignored me, I lost friends.It was pretty tough, but when I found the right friends, I made it through.
I found, as cheesy as it was, to make comebacks.Not offensive ones, simply some like:
Kid:Are you emo?
me:Are you?
Kid:No
Me:exactly.
Thank you for suffering through my gargantuan post.
If she doubts any of it, tell her you heard the method from a scene kid.You can even have proof!

sincerely,

Rachel Behr

being a "scene" kid is not hurting your daughter and you. Being scene isnt something you can just undo. Scene is who you are not the way you dress or do your hair....... and if all that she thinks it is ( hair clothes and makeup), then take it all away cause she probley isnt scenem, she is probley a poser, and very conceted that she is now "fake scene" and she probley thin k she is cool then- posers are never cool.If she truthfully is scene then dont change her ( because you cant change her).....she probley gets enough crap from the reactions of other students and teachers at school. If she really is having a problem, its probley has nothing to do with her being scene ..... maybe from the negective reactions she gets from being scene, like your doing, but most scene kids dont care about what other people think, they go with what feels right to them.
IF SHE IS A POSER------CHANGE HER----I GAURENTEE IT WILL BE BETTER--- because if she is a poser, others kids at school probley know, so they are making fun of her for being a poser---- and if she stops being a poser----kids will stop making fun of ur daughter----and her attitude will definitly change and be better. good luck! and remember..... scene =good
                    poser =bad

tell a person

tell a teacher or a big person.

Well, You could always tell her your feelings. But she may jump to conclusion, that your judgeing herr. Or you could change her. Unless you have told her to be herself, nd dont let anyone judge you. Then i guess you would kinda be a hypocrite.

You can't change your child. She needs to express herself. Try to get her into more activities that may help her express herself. Try dance or an art class. Be accepting of her shortcomings, and supportive of her decisions. By doing this, she will confide in you more.

Well, i'm personally against the "scene movement" they all claim to be "unique" and "different" but really they all dress the same, act the same, listen to the same music. Etc... I have piercings, and am also an active member of the rave scene (different 'scene') and at most events I attend, there's always scene kids. Which in that case is fine ('PLUR') but still do not agree with these kid's opinions and style, if you believe this is harming your daughter, or just don't like it. Make her stop. Tell her "No" i know it's a diffucult concept for parents these days, but tell her no. Stop buying her clothes at hot topic and make her dress and act like a regular person. If you can't just be an adult and tell her no, seek help bu calling 1-800-hang-yourself because if you can't be a grown up and choose to allow your child to act like a little faggot, that's the only reasonable way to handle it, but hey! Your kid might come to their senses and end it too. Cheers!:)

you cant change a person. they have to want to change by themselves and if they want to change then you ask if you can help.

Hello. I am a teenager of the scene variety, although I have not gone to extreme levels. I am going to outline how you can keep a relationship with your daughter, and let her be who she wants to be.
- Does she have coloured hair? Outline the colours she is PERMITTED to dye it, and if she breaches this rule, make her bleach it out. I dyed my hair electric blue once, and my brothers made me bleach it out. Since she would know bleaching is damaging to hair, she would think twice before doing it again.
- Does your daughter have piercings? Set a number of piercings (and audacity) that she can wear on certain days; two or three to school, and as many as she likes on the weekends.
- Does your daughter wear extreme makeup? Limit the amount she can wear in public, and the colour scheme. Be aware that changing one's makeup regime can result in chaos, but a hard fist is for the best.
- Does your daughter wear innappropriate clothing? In the end, it is your ultimate judgement that decides what you allow your daughter to wear. Avoid large, gaudy shoes, belts and jewellery, but let her keep softer items. Give her a colour scheme of what she can wear in public.
- Does your daughter give you attitude? Music is an important part of a scene girl's anatomy (this I highly reccomend you let be, because changing a person's music is a low act, and she WILL hate you for it). However, when she swears, or breaks the rules, take her music and internet privelages away for an according amount of time.

My own experiences as a scene girl have had mixed influences on me. They helped me bring out who I was without restriction, which was a good thing. Living with only my three older brothers (and with a hopeless name like Andromeda) my life lacks a lot of discipline. Being a scene girl didn't help that. Talk to your daughter about the problem, and she will listen.