10 year old needs help with social & music skills!
My grandson is 10 years old--has ADHD & needs help in areas of socialization skills & music! He has played baseball since age 4,and needs to move on for he is burnt out on that ! He played soccer last year & did okay ,but just not his thing ! We tried Boy Scouts & he disliked it ! Would love to have him in a music program for he does'nt care to sing out loud alot,but when he does sing he has a remarkable voice ! I understand MUSIC is a great thing for ADHD children ! Is this true? I would appreciate any help on this matter ! What can we do to help him improve these skills to help him improve his low self esteem ? Thanks !
Great question. Given your grandsons aversion to group activity, chorus or band might not be the answer. They require concentration, sitting still and listening and unless he is well medicated, not likely to be successful. However, his gift of song could be developed individually with private instruction. And THEN with the self confidence he gains can take it to another level. Have his parents speak with the music teacher at school to see what is available.
Wayne Yankus, MD, FAAP
expert panelist: pediatrics
Music is good for any and every child and person. :)
If you are talking about music as an activity for his ADHD, relaxation and imagery can be very useful. For this, relaxing and calming music is used and it basically calms the mind. On the other hand dancing it out to loud or jumpy music is also very helpful to release the energy.
When you speak of singing. Yes it is indeed a very good activity to get your child into. Infact, since you say he has a remarkable voice, the singing will even help increase his self-esteem. When you do something you're good at, not only do you feel good for yourself, but others around also tell you hhow good you are at it. This increases self-esteem.
In short, to help a child who has ADHD, with social and music skills, you put him into the music activity, and allow him to learn and explore. As I said, his self-esteem will improve. Also, once he is comfortable with his singing, allow him to experience it as part of a group or so. This will help him learn social skills and with correct guidance through this whole process he will also increase his self-esteem.
The main thing behind increasing self-esteem is to reinforce/reward and encourage your child for everything he does that is good or even close. Or atleast give it out to him for his effort. At that age, one's self-esteem is completely dependant on the people around the child.