My son is 2 1/2 and has been attending preschool shortly after turning 2. All was fine with him there until recently. He has started bullying. Help!!!

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My son is a very sweet and loving boy. He is also however very determined and hyper, in a good way. He is not a bad child, he just needs a lot of stimulation and more of a challenge. He is the type of kid who will master something and move on to the next challenge.
The problem we are facing with him goes beyond the normal 2 year old behavior. The kids in his group at school have been acting out towards each other but it is my son who is now acting out towards the adults there.

We read appropriate books at home in regards to these issues, he does know that hitting is wrong and not nice. At home, me and his dad work with him on good behavior when he becomes ancy and wants something like going outside but it is raining, a temper tantrum starts then the hitting. We block the hits and ignore him but that does not always help..Yet, this is still an issue. For the last week and a half we get feedback from the school that is not so pleasant.

Any feedback would be greatly appreciated!!! Thanks!!!

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Your son may not be ready to attend preschool. Most preschools do not start children until they are 3 or 4 years old. Boys in general do not mature socially and emotionally as early as girls. This can make a big difference when they are in a school setting when they are this young. It is usually recommended to wait until boys are older before starting them in a structured school setting. For example, many parents choose to wait until their sons are closer to 6 years old to start their child in Kindergarten when their son has a summer or autumn birthday.

Your son's behavior is not abnormal for a 2-1/2 year old. Children his age are still not able to verbally express themselves and so they act out their emotions and feelings by tantrums, crying, hitting, etc. You are doing a great job by exploring appropriate touch and manners with your son. Continue to do what you are doing in this regard. You can help him learn to calm himself and to identify when he starts to feel angry. We suggest you take a look at our website for parents which can give you many great parenting ideas and tips: www.parenting.org Boys Town developed the Common Sense Parenting approach and there are books and DVD to help parents and children. One book we recommend is "Common Sense Parenting of Toddlers and Preschoolers" by Barnes and York.

Our Hotline is here 24 hours, 7 days a week to help parents with any concern or problem. We can also be reached by e-mail through our website. We hope you continue to reach out! Best wishes to you and your family.

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salome30 writes:

try time out for thirty minutes or longer,so he'll understand what happens when he hits,it is unacceptable,tell him it's unacceptable to hit people when he is angry,but let him know it's OK to be angry,and express emotion.

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mwahahaha writes:

i think that you should talk with your son and see if he is hurting people phisicly or mentaly and why he is doing that and if he is doing it for no good reason and wont stop you should talk to the teacher and sopervisers in the school and if it is a continued problem i think you should go to the princeble with this and get help from him

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