shian
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Q:
My son is being bullied by his best friend.
My son is best friends with a boy who lives on the same road as us, they have been friends for a few years now. His friend has to be number one at everything and puts ben down to make himself feel better. He is not nice to ben at school and will not play with him and hits him, i sorted the hitting out but now he tells other kids to hit ben and to call him names and not play with him and now he is doing the same with other kids on the road but he is also nice to ben when its just the two of them. My child behaviour has got really bad at home and he feels like everyone hates him. I have spoken to his mum about a few things but i think she thinks thats just boys being boys . I feel like we will have to move to get away from him and change schools as ben still plays with him even if is a bad friend for him
In Topics:
Bullying and teasing, Friendships and peer relationships
> 60 days ago
What the Expert Says:
Additional Answers (3)
YOU MUST TALK FIRST TO HIS PARENTS THEN BRING YOUR SON AND HIS FRIEND TOGETHER WITH HIS PARENTS DISCUSSION IS NEEDED UNTIL THIS PROBLEM WILL CONTINUE.
> 60 days ago
Hi Shian,
My problem is identical..i.e. my son ( 5 yrs old) gets bullied by his best friend but he also plays with him as they are classmates and ( unfortunately!) neighbours too.
Just yesterday, there was this fresh incident of bullying so i took it up with his mum, for the first time. She got defensive immediately and said 'Let them not play with each other'.
i get very frustrated sometimes and dont know what to do..i did get some answers from the counsellor's reply to your question. hope it works...
My problem is identical..i.e. my son ( 5 yrs old) gets bullied by his best friend but he also plays with him as they are classmates and ( unfortunately!) neighbours too.
Just yesterday, there was this fresh incident of bullying so i took it up with his mum, for the first time. She got defensive immediately and said 'Let them not play with each other'.
i get very frustrated sometimes and dont know what to do..i did get some answers from the counsellor's reply to your question. hope it works...
> 60 days ago
Moving is not the answer. Bullying is everywhere in the USA and he'll just get bullied at another school. First, this is NOT a best friend. Best friends do not hit and call names. Explain that to Ben. Give Ben WORDS to use when this other child bullies him - such as "If you were really a NICE boy you would not treat me like this. I only want to be friends with people who treat others in a nice way and you do not! I will not be your friend because you are not nice, and if you continue to hit me I will tell on you and get you in trouble." Have a police officer go to the boys house and tell him that hitting is ASSAULT and that Ben could actually have the kid get into BIG trouble for assault. I do not recommend Ben hit back - yet. Instead, also enroll your child in a self defense class so that if something sometime happens then Ben can physically defend himself. Also a martial arts class will give Ben confidence as well.
> 60 days ago
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