The best thing is to be there for him. Having gone through this myself, I know exactly what your son is going through and feeling. First off you need to be commended that he has confided in you about his sexuality. Many kids hide it from their parents. You have done a good job at providing a safe, loving, and open relationship with your son; many teens can only be so fortunate to have that.

As for how to handle this with his father, I think if you try to talk to them and let them know of your concerns things might get better. Your son needs to know his father is being reactionary and acting out in his own fear and ignorance. I would suggest, as well, contacting PFLAG. They are a great organization that can help you better understand your son during this time and how to talk with him and his father.

I do actually experience this kind of problem within me. I'm a 3rd year education student and i feel that i don't have anything to do with my life. i feel that i don't have any talent. that I'm a worthless girl who strives to study to make my parents proud. but having time to think about things, i noticed that i have a different perspective like the others. most of the time there would be at least two persons who would have the same perspective right? and mostly that person became your best friend. but i had never found one.. i have never found a best friend that would have the same way of thinking as I'm thinking.

and i think, it is because I'm not sure of what i want to be, what i like, and who do i think I'am. its very complicated having this kind of way of thinking.

try to ask yourself if you are sure of what you are doing, if that is what you really want, and if that is the work you want to have for the rest of your life..

thank you for reading my reply..

Anabel Bulotano

Well I know for me it was the hardest day in my life and unfortunately my adopted parents are like your "X" but since i was 18 i moved out and i am still with my boyfriend.It is good that you will support him no matter what for there are allot of parents that don't. I recommend you take him to see a therapist for no i don't know your son and everyone takes it different but when i was with my adopted parents they didn't know behind closed doors i was cutting my self every nite for i was depressed for they said they would disown me. but now i am with my bi logical family and they all agree we might agree with it or support it but do what makes you happy for they said if you are gay or bi-sexual we will love you the same. I would also recommend you tell your x and tell him that he doesn't have to like it but just be there for his son and love him the same. and just for you to know if he is almost half of us find out we are gay and some of us (like me) find it easier to tell our par rents that we are bi then gay for in particular those whom was brought up in a religious home