CreativeRac... , Child Professional, Teacher asks:

How do you help your son or daughter if they are questioning their sexuality?

In Topics: Teen issues
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Jul 9, 2009
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Talking to your son or daughter about sexuality can be a very difficult and confusing discussion. What you tell your child depends on your personal and religious beliefs. Your beliefs about sexuality will influence how you want your child to think and behave. Whatever position you take, remember not to negate their feelings. Even if you don't agree with their feelings, remember that whatever they are going through is very real to them. Give them lots of praise for being willing to discuss this topic with you. Encourage them to continue to talk about how they're feeling and not to keep everything buried deep inside because of their fear of being rejected.

Sometimes it can be very difficult for a youth to talk to their parents about these types of topics. If you feel that they are are in need of talking to someone besides yourself, offer to take them to a counselor. A counselor won't tell them whether what they are feeling is right or wrong, but they will be an unbiased third party that's willing to listen, encourage, and help them sort out these feelings. Your role as the parent should be encouraging and supportive right now. Be a good listener and interject your thoughts and feelings when appropriate. Avoid telling them exactly what they should do or how they should feel.

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Jul 7, 2009

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Hi CreativeRachna,
  let me just say this a tough topic for all parents and it's great that you're trying to find ways to support different sexual orientations.

I think the most crucial thing to remember is that your son/daughter  needs support and encouragement through these tough times, so positive communication is essential! If your son/daughter is telling you about these sexuality issues directly, dont forget that they are confiding in you, a sign of trust and love, and your child is still the same person as they were before they told you.

While the context and responses will greatly vary from each parent to parent depending on their relationship to their child and local social attitude towards LGBTQQ individuals, a good thing to do would be contact local LGBTQQ groups in your area and seek advice, as well as educate yourself on the challenges lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, etc. individuals face on a daily basis.

Hope this helps!

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