We have near exhausted our funds on tests for him since 6yrs and he's about to turn 14! And still no proper answers apart form ADHD which his teacher of 2yrs and a family friend who is also a teacher are convinced he does not have, they both think he has Aspergers and I tend to agree but apparently he cannot be as he is too affectionate towards us for that diagnosis so my frustration is what is it then as have tried everything and IEP's but he still cannot take anything in or understand things and is so embarrassed to keep asking for help but he is not a badly behaved child but will be soon enough as not learning and starting to really dislike school as he thinks he is not smart enough! We know he does not understand common things as he is a concrete thinker and takes everything so literally and has problems understanding social cues and behavior.  I am so frustrated and do not want him to learn nothing and then not be able to get a decent job when he is a strong, capable and willing boy at any chores at home or anything physical or outdoors. Having him tested for dyslexia in Jan as last time they looked at this they said borderline? What do I do?