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rex63
rex63 asks:
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How do teachers work with parents who have different perspectives on discipline than they do?  

In Topics: Working with my child's teacher(s), Discipline and behavior challenges
> 60 days ago

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Boys Town National Hotline
Sep 2, 2011
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What the Expert Says:

This can be very difficult as different families have differing values, expectations, and discipline systems.  The good news is that children can adapt.  Just because rules are one way at home, they can learn to behave a different way in school.  Don't say the parents or the family is wrong for what they do or how they disipline, but always be clear about "this is how we do things at school."  Set up the rules, expectations, and follow through with whatever you set up.  Even in school, this can vary from classroom to classroom.  Some teachers are very strict, others may be more laid back.  Set up the environment for your classroom within the rules and disiplinary structure set forth by the school, communicate clearly with your students, and don't be afraid to consult with administration if a student has an issue that you are having trouble coping with.  Communicate these same expectations with parents if they have questions or concerns.  If the parents take exception with some of the policies and procedures, refer them to administration for further explanation.  

We wish you luck with this.  It can be very difficult to deal with these sorts of issues because of the many backrgounds, families, and cultures that have very differing views on discipline.  Keep your classroom consistent with school rules and be transperant with students and parents about this information.

Counselor, Dominic
Boys Town National Hotline-A resource for teen and parents
1-800-448-3000
www.parenting.org

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greenprof2
greenprof2 writes:
I would hope that you and your child's teachers would be able to sit down together perhaps at an after school conference and discuss your discipline issues. Teachers today have a tough go of it if they are trying to keep order among 25 or so kids, especially if they are serving children from different communities with different values on discipline. Teachers recognize that they need to be fair and consistent. I believe if you approach them with some understanding of their classroom situation that you will find that they will listen to your concerns and try to work with you.
> 60 days ago

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JeanneBrockmyer
JeanneBrock... writes:
That can be a tough situation.  The teacher needs to think carefully about where the parent is coming from in terms of culture and family background.  Different sub-cultures have very different views on what is appropriate discipline.  However, if a parent's strategy isn't working, then they may be open to a different approach.  Suggesting a parent-friendly resource like education.com can be a good way to help a parent take a different approach without appearing critical of the parent. Of course if the discipline is abusive, then the teacher needs to also follow the guidelines that apply to mandated reporters.

Jeanne H. Brockmyer, Ph.D.
education.com expert clinical child psychologist
> 60 days ago

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