As you consider grade retention for your son, there are a number of issues to keep in mind. First, you should learn all that you can about research examining the short- and long-term effects of grade retention. The National Association of School Psychologists (NASP) has published a position statement (which means that prominent members of the NASP got together, reviewed the evidence, and determined their official "position" on the issue) on grade retention. Overall, the research indicates that students who are held back/retained have worse outcomes academically and emotionally than their peers who were also candidates for retention, but who were promoted. I believe that you should ask his teacher. What does she recommend?

Has your son ever been tested for special eduation? I ask because it sounds like he may have a unique learning style and/or difference that is getting in his way, prohibiting him from accessing the school curriculum. This situation is not particularly unusual as the public school system is designed for the "typical" learner. However, I suspect that your son may need some accommodations or modifications to curriculum, changing the way in which information is being presented to him. However, you and his teachers need to discover what his learning needs are first. I suggest that you get the ball rolling for securing a special education evaluation for your son. There are a number of ways to do this, but you may start by talking with your son's teacher. Express your wish to have him tested, and follow-up with her in order to make certain that the request has been translated to the special education coordinator. Another option is to submit a written request directly to the school principal. Here is a sample letter: http://www.ncld.org/publications-a-more/checklists-worksheets-a-forms/sample-letter-requesting-evaluation. The school must respond with a plan for evaluation or an explanation for why they are choosing not to test. It is in times like this, that you will need to continue to educate yourself on your rights as a parent and dedicate yourself to assuring that school personnel follow through on their responsibilities. For more on navigating special education, please see the following article: http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_Questions_Often/

If, and when, your son is found eligible for special education, school personnel will help devise a plan of accommodations (which may include tutoring provided by the school) to support your son. Hope that helps. Good luck and keep us posted!

L. Compian, Ph.D.
Counseling Psychologist
Education.com Expert Panel