meandmy3
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What do I do to help my son with bullies?
We've been to school on 5 different occasions to seek protection from bullies at school, however both leaders of school don't want to rock the boat because the bullies are in the "in" crowd along with the leaders sons. Not sure where to turn at this point.
In Topics:
Bullying and teasing
> 60 days ago
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Hello meandmy3,
I'm so sorry to hear about the frustrating situation you're in. Many schools across the country are starting to do a better and better job of adopting and enforcing zero tolerance policies for bullying but it sounds like unfortunately your school is not there yet. I don't think you should give up on trying to encourage the teachers and administrators. Keep asking for meetings. Keep advocating for your kids' right to a safe place to go to school.
But in the mean time, it may be that helping your kids manage the situation is your best chance of making a difference in the situation. We have a number of articles on bullying here on Education.com. Here's a link to our bullying information center. I hope something here helps you and your kids. http://www.education.com/reference/topic/TeenYears_MiddleYears_Bullying/
Hang in there....they're lucky to have you. Please keep us posted on how things are going.
Kat
Education.com Community Team
I'm so sorry to hear about the frustrating situation you're in. Many schools across the country are starting to do a better and better job of adopting and enforcing zero tolerance policies for bullying but it sounds like unfortunately your school is not there yet. I don't think you should give up on trying to encourage the teachers and administrators. Keep asking for meetings. Keep advocating for your kids' right to a safe place to go to school.
But in the mean time, it may be that helping your kids manage the situation is your best chance of making a difference in the situation. We have a number of articles on bullying here on Education.com. Here's a link to our bullying information center. I hope something here helps you and your kids. http://www.education.com/reference/topic/TeenYears_MiddleYears_Bullying/
Hang in there....they're lucky to have you. Please keep us posted on how things are going.
Kat
Education.com Community Team
> 60 days ago
I tend to call these people the "elitists" or so they have some control over rules and usually the exception to rule always applies to them. However, I would continue to approach anyone I could. Even going to measures to contact your local paper if you must. Unlawful activities should not be ignored by a school or a community. Try this and have your son form an anti-bully campaign or support group. The other option would be change schools. I always recommend this before it completely ruins a child. There is no need for your child to suffer, and sometimes that means pulling him or her out and finding a peaceful alternative. Trust me, I have seen people fight so hard to a system that had failed them. I am an advocate of holistic living and homeschooling. So I always try to encourage a "lifestyle" change. It is one you will not regret. Giving your child freedom from an issue like this is priceless. And do not listen to the people who say "well he must learn to deal with it". No, no... your child must learn to make good choices when in a bad situation. Staying in a situation that could mean his esteem and maybe even his life is unacceptable. Good luck :)
> 60 days ago
Talk is cheap and it doesn't solve problems!
We are putting all the responsibility for this problem on the victim and while we must act to protect the innocent, we must shift our thinking to prevention and have those who bully... be responsible for the change that will make our society a caring and compassionate culture. Change must come from the INSIGHT out. We are approaching this matter with more of what the VICTIM can do. Guess who has to change to make this work.
I am a speaker and an author on bullying. I have created a teacher training program to help prevent bullying in schools.
Bullying will not be conquered by setting bigger traps...but by changing the hearts and minds of the kids who bully.
Please see www.stopbullyingwithedie.com if you want to make a true shift in consciousness and get it right.
Love and light...
Edie
We are putting all the responsibility for this problem on the victim and while we must act to protect the innocent, we must shift our thinking to prevention and have those who bully... be responsible for the change that will make our society a caring and compassionate culture. Change must come from the INSIGHT out. We are approaching this matter with more of what the VICTIM can do. Guess who has to change to make this work.
I am a speaker and an author on bullying. I have created a teacher training program to help prevent bullying in schools.
Bullying will not be conquered by setting bigger traps...but by changing the hearts and minds of the kids who bully.
Please see www.stopbullyingwithedie.com if you want to make a true shift in consciousness and get it right.
Love and light...
Edie
> 60 days ago
Have you spoke with the superintendent and or school board members of this behavior. Worse case I would confront the bullies parents and maybe all the grown ups and children have a sat down and talk about the problem because most of the time a bully is a bully for way for everyone to look at them negative reaction is better than nothing at all. So tell your son most of all never let the bully get the best of him as long as he know he can bother him he will trust me once the bully thinks or knows that it no longer is bothering your son he will find something or someone to entertain him I hope something I have said will help you some how.
> 60 days ago
Have you spoke with the superintendent and or school board members of this behavior. Worse case I would confront the bullies parents and maybe all the grown ups and children have a sat down and talk about the problem because most of the time a bully is a bully for way for everyone to look at them negative reaction is better than nothing at all. So tell your son most of all never let the bully get the best of him as long as he know he can bother him he will trust me once the bully thinks or knows that it no longer is bothering your son he will find something or someone to entertain him I hope something I have said will help you some how.
> 60 days ago
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