It sounds like you and your mom are stuck in a cycle. The way you have been communicating is like a bad habit and it can take time to break any habit. Good for you by trying to approach your mom in a different way by trying to sit down and talk things over! If you continue to use this approach, you will feel better about yourself and you may see changes in your mom's behaviors as well.

You say you are fighting about the same issue over and over. Is is possible that what you are wanting from you mom is something she won't discuss any longer because she has already told you "no"? If this is the case then you should stop begging your mom to change her mind. You can ask her why she feels the way she does but you need to respect her decision.

If you would like to speak with a counselor about this or any other issue, please call or e-mail our Hotline. We also have an excellent website for teens: www.yourlifeyourvoice.org   We hope to hear from you soon!

Sincerely,

Cynthia, Counselor
Boys Town National Hotline
1-800-448-3000
yourlifeyourvoice@boystown