Your daughter may have outgrown the nursery rhyme that describes her as
“sugar and spice and everything nice.” Instead, she might be worried about
all of that sugar making her fat. Some studies suggest that body image
ideas begin in children as young as 3.1 But parents—particularly
moms—can have a positive impact on their daughters’ body image when they
model healthy attitudes toward their own bodies.
The Media’s Influence
Media images—TV shows, movies, and music showcasing rail-thin models,
actresses, and singers—promote underweight women, which can affect what
girls think about their own bodies. Even though most fashion models weigh
23 percent less than the average female,2 many young girls
idealize this very thin body type. In one study, most girls (70 percent)
reported that the appearance of models in magazines influences their image
of a perfect female body, and 47 percent wanted to lose weight because of
the magazine pictures.3
Parents’ Influence
It’s not just the media that influences young girls. Think about it—how
many times have you said, “I need to go on a diet”? Now, think about how
many times you may have said it in front of your daughter. Whether or not
they are aware of it, parents and caregivers set the example for the eating
patterns of their children. Being a role model is more than just what you
eat—and it is more than who you admire on TV or in the neighborhood.
Children learn how to eat by listening to and watching the adults around
them.
Girls with mothers who reported recent dieting or who had a family history
of being overweight were more likely to have ideas about dieting, according
to a study in the Journal of the American Dietetic
Association.4 At the extreme end, doctors are seeing
girls as young as 5 or 6 who have eating disorders. Experts say that these
young children, mostly girls, are following the patterns set by their
mothers.5
What To Do?
The cycle can be frustrating—knowing if a child is overweight may be hard
for a parent to judge, but too much talk about “dieting” can be negative as
well. So, how do you establish healthy eating patterns for you and your
family and help your daughter form a positive body image?
You can help your daughter establish and maintain healthy eating patterns
and a positive body image while you improve or maintain your own positive
body image.
- Let your daughter know that weight gain is a normal part of growth,
especially during puberty.
- Avoid negative statements about food, weight, and body size and
shape.
- Let your daughter make choices about food. Offer her healthy and
nutritious meals and snacks.
- Praise your child for her many activities, talents, and
accomplishments.
- Watch TV with your daughter and discuss the
images you see.
- Encourage your daughter to get regular exercise—try going on a family
walk together.
Also, keep the lines of communication open with your child. Let her know she can come to you
with any questions or concerns about her body, and guide her toward healthy
choices. Doing so will help your daughter build not only a strong body, but
a strong body image.
Conversation Starters
What do you think of the way girls and women look on TV and in magazines?
How often do you think about your weight?
How do you feel about your body?
Additional Resources
WomensHealth.gov. Body Image and Your Kids: Your Body Image Plays
a Role in Theirs, last referenced 10/23/2006.
KidsHealth. Even Before Puberty, Kids Harbor Body Image
Concern, last referenced 10/23/2006.
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