Underage Drinking: Start Talking Before They Start Drinking (page 2)

Your children need information to make good decisions. Don’t wait until a problem arises to talk to them about drinking alcohol. Be sure to tell your child:

THE BODY²⁴ > With the first sip of alcohol, the drinker is affected. > Alcohol passes through the lining of the stomach into the bloodstream. It irritates the stomach lining, which can make a person feel sick. If drinking continues, the person may vomit. > Alcohol moves through the bloodstream to every organ in the body, including the brain. > Once alcohol enters the brain, it changes the way a person behaves. Alcohol can make people do things they do not want to do. > As a person drinks more alcohol, the ability to make decisions is affected. The drinker also may lose balance and be unable to see or speak clearly. The more alcohol a person drinks, the worse the effects can be. > Alcohol can have lasting effects on the brain, impairing how a person learns, thinks, and remembers. > Alcohol can kill. When a person drinks too much alcohol in a very short period, alcohol poisoning can occur. Breathing gets difficult. A person can vomit, pass out, or even die. > Some people get addicted to alcohol. They drink more and more as they get used to the alcohol. But they can stop and recover.

PEERS > Children often think that other people their age are drinking regularly, but most are not.²⁵ > Alcohol can hurt your child—even if he or she is not the one drinking. If your child is around people who are drinking, he or she has an increased risk of being seriously injured or affected by violence. At the very least, your child may have to deal with someone who is sick, out of control, or unable to take care of themselves.²⁶ > As children get older, some of their friends may start drinking, and may get into trouble from drinking too much. Tell your child that there is help for people who have alcohol problems. It is OK to get help.

THE LAW > It is illegal for anyone to buy or possess alcohol until 21 years of age. > Even one drink can cause a person to fail a breath test. In some states, people under age 21 who have been drinking can have their driver’s license suspended, be subject to a heavy fine, or have their car permanently taken away.²⁷

Your Family Beliefs & History Around Alcohol

Discuss your personal beliefs with your child. Sharing your values and family history around alcohol will create an environment of trust and understanding.

IF YOU DRINK > Explain your rules for drinking responsibly and in moderation. > Tell your children that some people should not drink alcoholic beverages at all. These include:²⁸    • Children and adolescents.    • Individuals of any age who cannot restrict      their drinking to moderate levels. This is a      special concern for recovering alcoholics      and people whose family members have      alcohol problems.    • Women who are trying to conceive or who      are pregnant.    • People who plan to drive or take part in      activities that require attention or skill.    • People using prescription and      over-the-counter medications. > Be clear that you do not want your children to drink alcohol until they are 21 years old. > When they are 21, if they decide to drink, they should do in moderation.

IF YOU DON’T DRINK > Explain your reasons for not drinking, whether they are religious, health related, or due to family history. > Encourage your children to talk with you if they have questions about why you choose not to drink. > Be clear that you do not want them to drink alcohol. > Explain that when they are 21, if they should decide to drink, they should do so in moderation.

Your Family Beliefs & History Around Alcohol

IF SOMEONE IN THE FAMILY DRINKS TOO MUCH OR IS IN RECOVERY

If your family has a history of alcoholism, your children need to know that they are at a greater risk for problem drinking. > Discuss what drinking responsibly means, and that some people are unable to drink alcohol at all without drinking to excess. > Explain that alcoholism is a progressive disease that is a combination of physical addiction and mental obsession with drinking. > Communicate the importance of abstaining from alcohol. Tell your children that they need to delay drinking for as long as possible and recommend that they not drink at all. Explain that the older they are before they take a drink, the lower the chances that they will have problems with alcohol. > Let your children know that drinking under the legal age of 21 is a major risk for people with a family history of alcohol. > Inform them that there are successful treatment options for people who drink and develop problems with alcohol, and that you support family members who are in recovery.

HELP IS AVAILABLE

> SAMHSA National Drug Information Treatment and Referral Hotline 800-662-HELP (4357) • dasis3.samhsa.gov Information, support, treatment options, and referrals to local rehab centers for any drug or alcohol problem. Operates 24 hours, seven days a week. > SMART Recovery 866-951-5357 • smartrecovery.org SMART(Self-Management And Recovery Training) helps people who choose to abstain from alcohol or addictive substances by teaching how to change self-defeating thoughts and actions. > National Youth Crisis Hotline 800-442-HOPE (4673) • 1800hithome.com Provides counseling and referrals to local drug treatment centers, shelters, and counseling services. Operates 24 hours, seven days a week. > Alateen 800-344-2666 • al-anon.alateen.org Alateen is a recovery program for young people which helps families and friends of alcoholics recover from the effects of living with a problem drinker. > National Association for Children of Alcoholics (NACoA) 888-554-COAS • nacoa.org NACoA’s mission is to advocate for all children and families affected by alcoholism and other drug dependencies.

What You Need to Do

Take Action

There are six actions you can take today to help keep your child alcohol free.

TALK EARLY AND OFTEN WITH YOUR CHILD > Establish and maintain an open line of communication. > Get into the habit of talking with your child every day. This will make it easier for you to have conversations about serious subjects when necessary.

GET INVOLVED > Talking with your child about his or her activities opens up an opportunity for you to share your interests and values. > Young people are much less likely to have mental health and substance abuse problems when they have positive activities to do and when caring adults are involved in their lives.

BE A GOOD ROLE MODEL > Think about what you say and how you act in front of your child. Your own actions are the most powerful indicator to your children of what is appropriate and acceptable in your family. > Do not take part in illegal, unhealthy, or dangerous practices related to alcohol, tobacco, or drugs or your child may believe that these practices are OK no matter what you say.

Be aware of what is going on in your home. Two out of three teens aged 13-18 said it is easy to get alcohol from their own homes without their parents knowing it.³⁰

TEACH KIDS TO CHOOSE FRIENDS WISELY

> Teach your child how to form positive relationships. > Help your child to understand what qualities to look for in a friend.

MONITOR YOUR CHILD’S ACTIVITIES > Know where your children are and get acquainted with their friends. > Limit the amount of time your children spend without an adult being present. Unsupervised children have more opportunities to experiment with risky behaviors, including the use of alcohol, tobacco, and illegal drugs, and they may start substance abuse at earlier ages.

SET RULES > Make clear, sensible rules for your child and enforce them with consistency and appropriate consequences. > Following these rules can help protect your child’s physical safety and mental well-being, which can lower his or her risk for substance abuse problems.

Set Clear Rules About Alcohol

Set clear rules about alcohol.

BE SPECIFIC > Tell your children what the law is, what your household rules are, and what behavior you expect. For example, “Alcohol is for adults. Do not drink alcohol until you are 21. Our family follows the law.”

BE CONSISTENT > Be sure your children understand that the rules are maintained at all times, and that the rules hold true even at other people’s houses. Follow your own rules.

BE REASONABLE > Don’t change the rules in mid-stream or add new consequences without talking to your children. Avoid unrealistic threats.

RECOGNIZE GOOD BEHAVIOR > Always let your children know how pleased you are when they respect the rules of the household.

PUT IT INTO PRACTICE > Write out your most important family rules and post them clearly where they are seen often by everyone in the family. Then review the rules regularly with your family on your children’s birthday or at the beginning of the school year.