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Visiting and Interviewing School-Age Child Care Providers (page 3)

By Eva Cochran|Mon Cochran|Nancy Torp
Cornell University, College of Human Ecology
Updated on Apr 22, 2009

Home Alone

Despite the tremendous expansion of school-age child care options during the past ten years, about 15 percent of all fiveto twelve-year-old U.S. children are left alone at home, to fend for themselves, every afternoon after school lets out. Some people call this self-care; others refer to it as the latchkey phenomenon.

Experts agree that children under the age of twelve should not be left alone as a matter of routine. Although children develop at different rates and some eleven- and twelve-yearolds probably are able to look after themselves for short periods, most children this age and younger cannot manage crises. Children younger than twelve are unable to evaluate all possible alternative courses of action to take in an emergency and select the one most appropriate for solving the problem. What might seem like a minor occurrence to adults can become a major catastrophe for a young child home alone. The howling wind, a clap of thunder, or the pounding rain that accompanies a weather change can be very frightening to a child alone. The telephone caller who hangs up without speaking or the stranger ringing the doorbell can severely challenge the self-confidence of a child who has no one to turn to for assurance. Children often worry excessively over seemingly minor accidents such as spilling milk on the couch, breaking a glass, or burning food while trying to fix a snack.

Don’t leave your under-twelve child at home alone. If you are thinking of having your teenager provide after-school care for your younger children, wait until the youngest is eleven or twelve. This is a lot to ask, especially in a family with limited resources whose children claim they can look after themselves. But think of the worst-case scenario. Are your children mature enough to anticipate and avoid dangerous situations or respond to them sensibly should they occur?

If your child must be left at home alone, think of the arrangement as a job that requires the child to be formally prepared and trained. Think of everything that happens daily in your home and try to anticipate the unexpected. What should he do if the electricity goes off? What if someone rings the doorbell? What if someone gets hurt? Suppose the cat runs out the door and won’t come back? Discuss all these possibilities with your child and establish clear guidelines for handling them. Write out the guidelines and post them on your refrigerator. During the last couple of weeks before school starts, describe such situations to your child and ask how she or he would handle them.

Another important support for the child who is home alone after school is to have a well-established routine for how to use the time until you return from work. Try to have him perform simple chores. If your employer allows it, set a regular time for telephone contact with your child. Maybe there is an adult relative or friend he can call as well. Also try to arrange for a “safe house” where he can check in before or after school if necessary. Perhaps a neighbor is at home during the day or you have a friend who doesn’t live too far away. Some communities have established “phone friend” telephone help lines for children who are home alone, either as a community service or as a service available for paid subscribers. Children who call this number can speak with an adult trained as a counselor about any worries they have or simply to hear a friendly, reassuring voice when they have been by themselves for several hours and feel lonely or scared.

Never leave a young child at home alone. If you can arrange nothing else, try to find a college student or a retired person who is willing to provide regular help for a modest fee. Perhaps a relative can come to your home for a couple of hours a day for a small amount of money. Some family child care providers offer their homes as safe houses for children who are old enough that they don’t need constant supervision. To explore these and other options further, check with your local child care resource and referral agency. Other places to seek information and ideas are a school newsletter, neighborhood newsletters, and bulletin boards at local libraries and food markets. The parent-teacher organization at your child’s school might also have useful suggestions.

Ultimately, the success of an after-school program depends on the particular characteristics of your child and your family. Here are some questions to help you think about your child’s strengths and needs:

  • How would you describe your child’s temperament?
  • What are his or her strengths?
  • What activities does your child enjoy most?
  • What are the low points in the day and the year for your child? Why do these occur?
  • Was anything in the last year a negative or painful experience for your child? What can you learn from that experience?
  • In what area do you think your child needs the most help? Can an after-school program be helpful in that area?
  • Has your child become involved in something because of a friend? Has that been a good experience?
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